Asteroid Eros in signs and houses


Eros posited in Aries, a fiery sign wants action, competition, confrontation and victory in life.  Eros in Aries can make a game of love complete. The more impossible the relationship, the more ardent he becomes in this sign.

As the first of the fire  signs, Eros  spends and consumes tremendous amounts of energy in the pursuit and capture of his territory. Eros in Aries makes the native vey active and perpetually busy lover. Eros, whether in the chart of a male or female, can exhibit traditional romantic behavior He is robust, gallant and always in the run to help damsels and young guys caught in the war of love.

Eros in Aries. ( in)These people instinctively and quickly become infatuated. Their sexual attractions are formed quickly and they get off on the sensations of the moment in an intense manner. These lovers may seem a little erratic to others, simply because their passions rise and fall so quickly. They are not as giving and emotional in their sexual expression, but they are passionate while it lasts. Eros in Aries people are attached to the sensations of the moment and may see their partner as an object, or an extension of themselves. They often prefer to do the pursuing in relationships and may be addicted to the conquest.

Eros’ forms are many and sometimes terrible, and in full strength he comes to us winged and gleaming and muscled like an athlete, with a fury and will that overpower our own and drive us before him as would a storm. –Peter Marin

Eros in Aries says, “Play with me, right here and right now!” In this sign, Eros wants action, competition, confrontation and of course, he wants to win! Eros in Aries can make a game of love complete with points to score and visiting teams to defeat! The more impossible the relationship, the more ardent he becomes.

As the first of the FIRE signs, he spends and consumes tremendous amounts of energy in the pursuit and capture of his quarry. All this fiery rabidity makes Eros in Aries a very active and perpetually busy lover. Eros here, whether in the chart of a male or female, can exhibit traditional romantic behavior not unlike a knight of old. He is robust, gallant and ever dashing off to slay dragons or rescue damsels, or helpless men, in distress.

She wants to hear: I want you. Cosmically activated by the fire of a bloodstone. Her fiery nature is triggered by firestones, rubies and garnets. Burning red is forever her hue dujour, She sizzles. She wants to hear: I want you. Her dream lover? The wild-at-heart studly type whom only she seems capable of conquering. Up for a challenge, the Eros-in-Aries woman appreciates strength and success in men more than any other female. She likes to mess with the head of Mr Hard-To-Get, making him crash through new barriers of love and adoration. Far from upsetting her, healthy competition arouses her fighting instincts, it’s vital that she feels superior to those who may have gone before. Once soul mated, her guy becomes the hero of her heart. Her loyalty is unsurpassed just as long as he first jumps through the hoops.

Cosmically activated by the scent of ginseng and musk, ‘sporty’ fragrances, even sweat. He loves it that you appreciate his au natural reek. To trigger his Eros, lay it on thick. He wants to hear: SAVE ME! He is love’s daredevil. In his mind, he gallivants around Camelot, the bravest knight of all and official rescuer of distressed damsels. He needs a quest to motivate him. His gigantic ego won’t let him admit it but he wants to work in scoring your unconditional love. Give him the chase that he craves and somehow forget to call it off. Even if you’ve been blissfully bonded together for 20 years. Eros in Aries is mission-oriented. Engage his protective instincts with a ‘he did me wrong’ tale of woe . . . he likes to shine in comparison with other lesser males.


Eros in the sign of  Taurus has little interest in the aggressive ardency of Aries. Taurus is not responsive and he would rather not have to compete with anyone to get what he wants. Eros has a different orientation in this sign, namely, an orientation towards pleasure. That means pure and natural, undiluted personal and sensual gratification.

This pleasure-seeking eye of the bull is ever on the niceties of sensuality whether they be in the dinning room, on the massage table or in a king size bed. He finds joy in tangible pursuits that revolve around making the body feel good as well as the pleasure of acquisition. Taurus can also become ferociously possessive of those pleasures in an extremely dogmatic way.

Eros in Taurus. ( in )These are highly sensual lovers who may seek to own their partners. Sexual possessiveness is often an issue with these lovers, and, unlike Eros in Aries, competition is not a turn-on. These lovers can be somewhat primitive in their desires and not as attracted to too much sexual intricacy. Plenty of masturbation is likely, although these lovers tend to be most unhappy without a steady partner. Their sexual natures are rooted in the senses.

This way, my love, this way, come here and haste to rest the whole night in my arms. I worship your lovely curly hair; I am consumed with ardent desire. Oh! Eros, in thy mercy, compel him to my bed. –Aristophanes

Eros in Taurus says “Hold me, touch me, kiss me, take me.” Here Eros has little interest in the aggressive ardency of Aries. Taurus is not responsive to getting up at 6 a.m. to do fifty laps at the pool and he would rather not have to compete with anyone to get what he wants. Eros has a different orientation in this sign, namely, an orientation towards pleasure. That means pure and natural, undiluted personal and sensual gratification.

This pleasure-seeking eye of the bull is ever on the niceties of sensuality whether they be in the dinning room, on the massage table or in a king size bed. He finds joy in tangible pursuits that revolve around making the body feel good as well as the pleasure of acquisition. Taurus can also become ferociously possessive of those pleasures in an extremely dogmatic way.

Cosmically activated by green from the Earth. The Eros-in-Taurus girl is brought alive by emerald, jade, greenstone, green tourmaline and peridot. Think like her, think green. She wants to hear: I’m here to stay. The woman with Eros in Taurus longs for a man who is the epitome of assurance and stability. She comes undone easily with jittery guys, tantrum-throwers and manipulators of girls. The man of her dreams must relish the non-stop slog to score his goals and feather their nest. Her fantasy is that of the insatiable sensualist at home and the dignified patriarch type everywhere else. She is naturally drawn to the mature, manly end of the male spectrum as opposed to the rowdy or uncertain iconoclast.

Cosmically activated by the smell of freshly cut grass and any similar fragrance. Woo him in the wilderness, walk through a field. The term ‘roll in the hay’ was invented for this guy. He wants to hear: I’m yours. A stayer, Eros in Taurus most values sensual compatibility. Seemingly insatiable, he is best won via bedwork and appeals to his so-tactile nature. Once truly in love, he is possessive, doting and demanding, lavishing his lover with athletic devotion. Despite an often-intense, sexing-it-up phase in youth, he yearns to be placed on a perfect husbandly pedestal. His libido waxes rather than wanes with a long-term love affair. Stability really turns him on … he sees soulmating not as metaphysical but as metabolic, part of his very physical being.


Eros in the sign of Gemini  thrives on the interaction of ideas, and communication. He likes it known how well he understands a subject and how much he could teach about it. Eros in Gemini wants to hear the words, or receive little cards with messages of love, much more than he wants  any material gifts.

Curiosity about how things work, why people behave in a certain way, or where some tradition began all contribute to the stimulating mental atmosphere where Eros in Gemini likes to live.  Eros in Gemini has a sense of mental objectivity and a clear  need for space. Eros  in this sign makes the native do more talking or reading about emotions and romance rather than going out and experiencing it all along by himself/herself.

Eros in Gemini. ( in )These lovers are sexually curious and interested. They like to be knowledgeable in sexual matters, and often are turned on by the written and spoken word. They may write letters to their lover, or enjoy writing and reading erotica. Because it is difficult for these lovers to turn their minds off during sex, there is a voyeur within the person during sexual expression, and it may be difficult for these lovers to simply “let go”. Many Eros in Gemini individuals enjoy talking, and being talked to, during sex.

…and the most beautiful words ever spoken, I have not yet said to you. –Nazim Hikmet

Eros in Gemini says, “If you want me, talk to me!” Here Eros thrives on the interaction of ideas, and the intellectual stimulation found in sharing observations, data and little understood facts. He likes it known how well he comprehends a subject and how much he could teach about it. Eros in Gemini wants to hear the words, or receive little cards with messages of love, much more than he wants to get a box of chocolates or even a massage!

Gemini governs the realm of the mind, the known universe, its facts and fancies. When Eros dresses in this outfit, he seeks intimacy first through intellectual rapport and that usually means talking. The mere act of communication can stimulate this position of Eros into desires for deeper intimacy and union, provided one listens to the discourse. The beloved’s inattention to detail or loss of concentration on the subject kills a genuine pursuit faster here than in any other sign.

Curiosity about how things work, why people behave in a certain way, or where some tradition began all contribute to the stimulating mental atmosphere where Eros in Gemini likes to live. He uses knowledge as a lure, his mind as bait and his wit as reward. He also uses these intellectual instruments as a bastion against the pain and suffering of the emotional world.

The first of the AIR signs, Eros in Gemini has a sense of mental objectivity and a distinct need for space. Although drawn irrefutably to the depths of intimacy by the nature of Eros itself, in this sign he may at times do more talking or reading about emotional closeness than going out and experiencing it.

Cosmically activated by pearls and pearls only. The milky baubles are traditionally so lucky for the Gemini woman, and for her only. Light up the Eros-in-Gem girl with a special gift. She wants to hear: I’m changeable, very changeable. Eros in Gemini falls for the witty, silver-tongued guy. She loves the super-smart, mind-challenging man and is turned on by innuendo-laden gossip, over-the-top flirting and amazing new info. She’s keen to try new things and will never allow dullness to darken her love life. Given this set of prerequisites, it is not surprising that the woman with Eros in Gemini is also known to crave variety in her menfolk. At some point it occurs to her that one man may not be able to satisfy her continual need for stimulation. The one who can is her soulmate.

Cosmically activated by ever changing scents. He always likes to be surprised. Flip him out with a hot Latin scent one moment, then blast him with a fresh, clean soap smell the next. He wants to hear: Come here, go away! The laughing cavalier of love, Eros in Gemini can’t engage his heart without a strong mental affinity. He’s aroused by new info, gossip and jokes that he hasn’t heard yet. He gets bored with moralizing and emotive ranting. So just keep him interested with lots of chitchat. He’ll love that you change the subject before he can. Whether he’s happily soulmated or not, this guy needs to feel as though he’s with a variety of people. Feel free to show off the myriad aspects of beautiful you to him. Reassure him by remaining unpredictable and always elusive.


In this sign, Eros experiences a certain amount of affinity and ease. Here the boundaries dissolve into a space of intimate rapport where the feelings, emotions, fears, pains and sorrows mingle.

Eros in Cancer longs to be wanted and he craves the significant other’s attention and deep need for attachment. Nurturing, sustaining and mothering all arise with this position.

Eros in Cancer. ( in )There is a need to infuse emotional care and nurture into the sex act. When the self-image is low, these lovers may use others as sexual objects, probably as a result of their fear of rejection. The breasts are a big turn-on, and many are orally fixated, and some may be attracted to a domination theme. When the self-image is stronger, intimacy and warmth are powerful stimulants. Eros in Cancer lovers seek to achieve psychic and emotional renewal through sex. They can be very intuitive bed partners. Sexual possessiveness is often an issue. Sometimes, these lovers want their partner to be relatively chaste, but they don’t have the same standards for themselves. These lovers often fall in love with their sexual partners.

A mean young man meets a witch, who says she will be his lover forever if he brings her the heart of his mother. He runs home, kills his mother and cuts out her heart. As he is running back through the forest, he trips and falls, dropping the heart. In a concerned tone, the heart says to him, “Son, did you hurt yourself?” –Old Jewish Parable

Eros in Cancer says, “share your joy and pain with me”. In this sign, Eros experiences a certain measure of affinity and ease. Here the boundaries can dissolve into a space of intimate rapport where the feelings, emotions, fears, pains and sorrows of two people merge and mingle into one. In cancer, Eros does not hesitate at the threshold of erotic intimacy. Once inside, he simply never wants to leave.

Eros in Cancer longs to be wanted and he craves the significant other’s attention and deep need for attachment. Nurturing, sustaining and mothering all arise with this archetype creating a potent link that can enhance life as well as strangle it to death. It is the image of the umbilical cord that offers succor but may also become toxic if it is not severed at the necessary time.

Cosmically activated by moonstone, water sapphire, clear quartz crystal. Her favorite gemstones symbolize the power of pure clarity and illumination. She’s a person of sensitivity— her stones must be as clear as her lover. She wants to hear: I need a muse. It is almost impossible for the woman with Eros in Cancer to fall in love with a man who is not sensitive and creative. Men who are hardened to life, in an effort to fit in with the system, leave her cold. She idealizes the artist, the musician and the writer – the guy incapable of mortgaging his dreams for the sake of respectability. But, she is also very security Conscious so her ideal soulmate is the one who somehow attains wealth by following his bliss. Highly intuitive and Compassionate, her true lover is gentle and nurturing, never macho or blustering.

Cosmically activated by scents that remind him of Mama, whether he admits or not. If in doubt, always go mega-girly and classic. He’s lured by the odour of a time past that maybe never was. He wants to hear: Hold me! He is the prince of tides, a mood- swinger and manipulator of hearts. He’s easily enslaved by sentimental gestures. Tread tenderly around anything to do with Mama. The way to his heart really is through his stomach – or massage. Bored by trivia but blessed with granite strength and serenity for real challenges, Eros in Cancer really understands the feminine mind. Accustomed from birth to gaga-gushing attention from females, beauty moves him. He abhors sleaze and vulgarity and will not be remotely amused by coarse stories.


Eros in Leo. ( in )Fantasies for Eros in Leo often revolve around their partner’s desire for them. These lovers generally get off on what they believe their sex partner must be feeling about them. They can put a lot of time into autoerotic behavior, and are often given to much flirtation and many infatuations. Nevertheless, they can be more loyal than most. Eros in Leo lives for love and attraction. They are threatened when passion settles down in their relationships. They feel the need to keep passion alive, and when it settles in a relationship, they can be addicted to flirting with other people in order to feel alive and potent. Eros in Leo lovers have a big ego investment in their relationships.

Call me a she-lion, then, if you like and Scylla, dweller on the Tuscan cliff. For I have touched your heart in the vital spot. –Euripides

Eros in Leo says, “watch me, follow me, worship me”. The operant word in this phrase is me. Eros in Leo is similar to his fiery counterpart Aries in the desire for action although here Leo’s need diverges in its tremendous longing for attention and adoration. Where Aries likes a playmate and wants, of course, to be first, Leo needs the devotional attention and unfailing love of those who touch his life. Unfortunately, this is often just what he feels is missing.

Eros in this position has a strong desire to feel special, unique and distinctive. The second of the FIRE signs, Eros in Leo requires energy and returns it in playful abundance as well. He dazzles in the spot-light of admiration and gives priority to the creative, artistic side of life.

Cosmically activated by gold! The yellow metal is warm like the Sun and as precious as the Leo sense of self. Give the gift of gold and watch her fabulosity come to life. She wants to hear: And you can be my queen! Eros in Leo needs nothing less than a superstar of love. She is truly admiring of talent and success. Her ideal guy is a highly acclaimed limelight-hogger with a super ego, immense confidence and an extreme belief in himself. She always checks out the talent in a social situation, overlooking the less impressive man in favor of the most gorgeous and over-the-top stud. Her idea of love involves grandiose, never-ending romance and the luxurious life. She simply can’t warm to someone who is insecure, shy or even vaguely undemonstrative.

Cosmically activated by officially difficult Diva scents. He likes a luxury brand fully layered via the trappings of body and bath versions. He just loves a smell that says, ‘Hello, I am here’. He wants to hear: I love the real you, beneath the fame. The sultan of love, Eros in Leo wants unconditional worship. Non-stop sycophancy is an optional extra. His heart gracious, regal and giving if perhaps too easily ensnared by hardcore glamour. Like Eros in Aries, he appreciates the chase aspect of romance but with added theatrics. He gets off on the grand gesture. For example, the ritual destruction of love letters from past suitors is now rendered irrelevant His fantasy of true romance can be annihilated by the split ends of everyday life. Don’t undermine his dignity. The queen of his heart must act the part.


Eros in Virgo has the tendency  to analyze intentions and rate them on a scale of one to ten. These  qualities of Virgo make him/ her to come  with a check list approach to romantic love.

Virgo has tremendous perceptions and is not a sign to hesitate using them on the partner.. Sometimes it turns inward were it manifests as a self-criticism, a damaging trait for the native. Eros in Virgo does have a very lusty and luscious desire nature. The material elements of life appraise high on the scale of importance and that means physical contact, physical nurturing and physical pleasure. Eros in Virgo  is not afraid to get close and stay close, if the special other turns out to be good enough for life.

Eros in Virgo. ( in )Earthiness and intellectuality combine in Eros in Virgo. These lovers are sensual, especially when they are not thinking too much. Because of the tendency for Virgo to think and analyze, however, there can be a tendency to be one’s own voyeur during sex. Vicarious enjoyment of sex is often highlighted with this placement. A meeting of minds is important to Eros in Virgo. These are somewhat moody lovers who may have distinct phases between promiscuity and celibacy. Virgo is very connected with–and aware of–the body and its functioning, and Eros in Virgo often seeks renewal through sex, with an attitude that sex is healthy and good for you. These are generally sensitive and tender lovers who do a lot to please their partners. Some awkwardness and shyness in terms of letting themselves go is often characteristic of this position. Virgo’s symbol is the Virgin. This should not be taken literally, although when Virgo is connected to the sexual nature, there is a sense of purity and independence. These lovers can be promiscuous at times, and quite kinky, but emerge from their experiences with a sense of purity nevertheless. can I find a path towards my soul’s real nature that begins right here where I am shipwrecked, rather than in pious hopes for a perfect life? –Harriet Eisman

Eros in Virgo says, “hold me, touch me, buy me things, and explain to me why you are doing it.” This second of the EARTH signs has all the tangible desires of Taurus with the added propensity to analyze intentions and rate them on a scale of one to ten. These discriminating qualities of Virgo can come to the fore with a check list approach to romantic love.

Virgo has tremendous perceptions and is not a sign to hesitate using them on the beloved. Sometimes this can equate with judgments and criticism, real wet blankets for erotic experiences. This perceptiveness can also turn inward were it manifests as a self-criticism, an equally damaging trait. An inclination to carry out a running commentary on the attributes and failings of any given moment may mingle with passion like oil and water.

Eros in Virgo does have a very lusty and luscious desire nature that shares an affinity with epithemia. The material elements of life appraise high on the scale of importance and that means physical contact, physical nurturing and physical pleasure. They can abide a great deal of touching, tasting and sensing too. Eros here is not afraid to get close and stay close, if the special other turns out to be good enough.

Cosmically activated by lapis lazuli. Cool and beautiful, just like the Eros-in-Virgo girl, the ultramarine rock has associations as an aphrodisiac and a health charm. Make her glow. She wants to hear: I’ve already cleaned it. She likes the cute quirky guy who, closeted like Superman, turns into a very suave alpha male. Immune to braggart gesturing and shallow displays of affection, her heart is won by the insightful compliment, the truly thoughtful act of kindness. But her ideal man is above all witty and funny. Eros in Virgo falls in love with the brilliant raconteur, the guy who can make a hilarious morsel out of even the most banal detail of everyday life. She is not at all interested in the guys who alternate from wild flights of fancy to crashing insecurity. This woman appreciates sanity and urbanity.

Cosmically activated by clean, clean, clean. Loves the pure smell of soap, freshly scrubbed skin and recently washed hair. The Virgo Eros is utterly freaked out by OTT scents. He wants to hear: I trust you Eros in Virgo equals love in observation mode. He has a details fetish so he relishes every little titbit of info on his object of desire. He likes to be taken into your confidence. He loves that you ask for his advice. Mystery is not a major turn-on. He wants a companion. But Eros in Virgo comes with a strong moral kick and a code of correctness. He’ll happily sit and listen to you whinge about work, talk about your technique for making toast – whatever. But he’ll flip out big time at any hint of dishonesty or tacky conduct.


This Eros in Libra wants above all to participate with the partner in many favorite activities. Libra is the sign of personal one-to-one relationships and Eros here has all the longings for the excellence and refinement in life. In this position, life needs to unfold pleasantly and in the company of a beloved other.

Eros in Libra has the ability to objectify life, and enjoys the communication of ideas. Talking , interpreting, counseling and the giving and receiving of feedback all rate high on the list of Libra’s good times. This is a refined position for Eros among all the other signs.

Eros in Libra. ( in )This is a rather flirtatious and charming position of Eros. Libra’s tendency toward a “tit for tat” attitude shows up as a desire for equality on a sexual level, but in practice, Eros in Libra lovers often forget their own sexual needs because they are focusing on those of their partner. Communication is sexy to these lovers. These people can be hopelessly addicted to all of the “trappings” of falling in love, so much so that when a relationship settles, it may seem boring. Highly romantic and charming, Eros in Libra people enjoy the social “game” surrounding making connections with lovers, and they can be quite seductive.

Eros, god of love, distilling liquid desire down upon the eyes, bringing sweet pleasure to the souls of those against whom you make war, never to me may you show yourself to my hurt nor ever come but in due measure and harmony.—-Euripides

Eros in Libra says, “share the elegant beauty of life with me!” This Eros wants above all to participate with a significant other in many splendid activities. Libra is the sign of personal one-to-one relationships and Eros here has all the longings for the excellence and refinement that exemplify Libra. In this position, life needs to unfold pleasantly and in the company of a beloved other.

Being the second of the AIR signs, Eros in Libra has the ability to objectify life, and enjoys the communication of ideas. Talking , interpreting, counseling and the giving and receiving of feedback all rate high on the list of Libra’s good times. This is a refined position for Eros, a sign that inherently honors the social niceties of the times and enjoys the sophistication of good manners and pleasant exchange. Unless, of course, they are flipping into their antagonistic side. Then, from Libra erupts the disputing debater or Devil’s advocate par excellent!

Cosmically activated by diamonds. When a woman has Eros in Libra, her heart yearns for harmony and enduring balance, on a highly sophisticated scale. The diamond she wears is aptly distinguished. She wants to hear: I love you for your beauty. The girl just can’t help it she’s a lover of male beauty in all its forms. And the man interested in hooking up with her has to acknowledge that she won’t stop noticing the glory of masculine pulchritude just because she’s soulmated. Eros in Libra adores not only good looks and charm but also the man of a philosophical bent, someone who can detach and consider both sides of an argument. Scenes and disharmony send her skittering away. An aesthetic creature at heart, she can’t abide a man who makes scenes or who is bolshie and macho just for the sake of it.

Cosmically activated by classic florals. He has a highly discerning sense of smell and hates tricky fragrances, synthetics and over-application. He could easily have a fetish about body lotion or scented lipgloss. He wants to hear: You are so beautiful. Eros in Libra fantasizes about a total merger of heart, mind, body and soul. Once soulmated, he gets off on non-stop togetherness His romantic ideals are lofty. A relationship should be nothing less than poetry in motion. He can be enraptured by the idea of woman — adoring of the concept, less taken with the everyday reality. A natural-born aesthete, he thrills to beauty, philosophy and talent but is appalled by banality Keep it real? No way Make it surreal The elegant euphemism is preferable to au naturel.


Eros in Scorpio speaks bluntly, hurting and wounding partners. His desires are potent, ardent and fixed and often involve a great deal of intense. Eros in this sign is interested in a very personal and erotic form of relationship. They generally do not hold back.

Eros in Scorpio seeks intense and possibly taboo sexual experiences.  A total transformation is likely for the partner.  Eros here may be in the sign of his greatest affinity. Scorpio relates well to the powerful hungers exhibited by Eros and there is little to modify. Scorpio is not afraid to get too close. He does not shun intimacy, physical or otherwise. He is not nervous about bodily functions, losing his freedom, sharing his emotions or surrendering his mind.

Eros in Scorpio. ( in )This is an especially erotic position of Eros. These lovers can be addicted to the thrill of getting to know a person inside and out, and to the power of love and sex. Intensity is important to these lovers. They don’t just want their partner’s body, they want a bit of their soul as well! This position suggests very little fear in the area of sexual intimacy, and these lovers will pretty much do anything and everything with a willing partner. They are passionate, and the more intense the relationship is, the better. Animal magnetism is high, probably because these people think about sex and intimacy a whole lot, and others may sense their intensity. They can easily get under your skin, tapping into others’ desires.

Come to me, and I shall be the sun round which you are locked in orbit,
and my rays shall lay bare the secrets you keep from each other, and I,
who possess charms and powers of which you have no inkling, shall
control and possess and destroy you!” — Anne Rice The Vampire Arman

Eros in Scorpio says, “merge with me in the searing furnace of the souls so that together we may be transformed.” Eros in Scorpio speaks bluntly. His desires are potent, ardent and fixed and often involve a great deal of intense intimacy that can make the light-hearted falter. Eros in this sign is interested in a very personal and erotic form of relating that has no qualms about ripping off the surface scab of social superficiality to expose the true nature of ones soul beneath. They generally do not hold back.

Eros here seeks, often through intense and possibly taboo sexual experiences, the gift of merging, union and transformation. This is the break on through to the other side that Jim Morrison echoed. He invites you to the threshold and if you enter, there is no turning back. You will transform or perish, or both.

Eros here may be in the sign of his greatest affinity. The second WATER sign, Scorpio relates well to the powerful hungers exhibited by Eros and there is little to modify or temper. Scorpio is not afraid to get too close. He does not shun intimacy, physical or otherwise. He is not nervous about bodily functions, losing his freedom, sharing his emotions or surrendering his mind. He just plain is not nervous or afraid of much, except maybe losing control.

Cosmically activated by the dark stones. This woman’s love nature is mysterious, which is not completely apparent on either the first or 10th meeting. Bring her the brooding malachite and black opal. She wants to hear: You consume me. Eros in Scorpio doesn’t even bother dating unless her knees tremble at the sheer sight of the guy. It’s either intensely passionate or she’s not there – literally. Her ideal man is super-focused on his brilliant career and his interests. One of his interests –her- could be better classified as an obsession. She is quickly bored with the guy who is too light-hearted about an affair and ditto the just good friends dynamic. She already has plenty of friends, thank you. Her soulmate cares deeply about the world and is capable of being deeply moved by emotion.

Cosmically activated by the smell of you, genuinely. For example, daub some ‘body fluid’ behind your ears. He likes pure essential oils [not cheap fakes] and is a secret admirer of musk. He wants to hear: Wow! how do you know that? Eros in Scorpio loves on two different levels. The first is dalliance — he has an enormous capacity to fool around without his hard-to-get heart even being involved. The second is true romance, which he is wary of, knowing his capacity for deep involvement. This man harbors unbelievable depths of emotion. He secretly reveres the concept of his Twin Soul but is also a game player, stopping only with the woman secure enough to call his bluff. He fantasizes about the grand passion that is strong enough to linger for lifetimes.


This placement of Eros in Sagittarius needs varied goals for the future and the space, energy, freedom and enthusiasm to live them out. Spontaneous, exuberant, adventurous and fickle, Eros here prefers a lively and challenging experience with the beloved, one that will take him to the four corners of the world. If someone is going to be with Eros in Sagittarius, they best get ready to soar in  the skies.

This position of Eros has enormous sexual energy and will become bored if the relationship does not develop into broader and richer potentials. Travel is his watchword. The travel Sagittarius has in mind involves the exploration of any previously unknown realm. This includes symbolic journeys through intellectual concepts, philosophical ideas, spiritual beliefs and artistic creations.

Eros in Sagittarius. ( in )These lovers have an enthusiastic and exuberant appeal. Sex is meant to be fun for Eros in Sagittarius, and some roughhousing and plenty of hearty laughs are turn-ons. Sexuality is sometimes viewed as if it were a sport by these people. They may surprise you with a very open and almost innocent attitude toward sex and intimacy. Sex is a bit of a game, and how this attitude is received will depend a lot on the audience! There can be a bit of an addiction to the chase, and avoidance of intimacy when it feels restricting in any way. Tenderness and romance are not the kinds of expressions that come as easily to these lovers. Laughter and fun are aphrodisiacs for this position of Eros. Sexual exploration and freedom are important, as well as a need for sexual honesty—sex without the frills and trappings that these lovers may find to be unnatural and even dishonest. Eros in Sagittarius can show up as passion for knowledge, hunger for new experiences, and a love of travel and exploring new lands and cultures.

Imagine, if you can, silver leaves waving above a pool of gold filled with singing fishes. Twin moons in an alien sky. If you like, I’ll show them to you and they will be, I promise you, the dullest part of the journey. Come with me and I will show you sights that you have never dreamed of. Or stay behind, and regret it until your dying day…–William Hartnell as Doctor Who

Eros in Sagittarius says, “expand my horizons and explore the unknown with me!” This placement of Eros needs widespread goals for the future and the space, energy and enthusiasm to live them out. Spontaneous, exuberant, adventurous and fickle, Eros here prefers a lively and challenging experience with the beloved, one that will take him to the limitless corners of the universe. If someone is going to be with Eros in Sagittarius, they best get ready to soar.

This third FIRE sign has enormous sexual energy and will become bored if the relationship does not develop into broader and richer potentials, or offer new horizons. Travel is his watchword and that does not necessarily mean physically jumping on a plane and heading for a distant culture. The travel Sagittarius has in mind involves the exploration of any previously unknown realm. This includes symbolic journeys through intellectual concepts, philosophical ideas, spiritual beliefs and artistic creations.

Cosmically activated by the blue-green rock. As changeable as the Eros-in-Saggo girl herself, turquoise is also about things that don’t change, such as love and loyalty. She wants to hear: If it’s the truth, it can’t be embarrassing. The woman with Eros in Saggo admires the independent man who makes up his own rules as he goes along. She also prefers the company of rugged idealists and bohemian dream boys. Her ideal man gives her stacks of space in which to develop by herself and hang out with her friends. A jealous or possessive male is like a bad nightmare. She needs someone secure in his own right to let her shine her own light in peace. Trust is her biggest motif in love and also the belief that truth is beauty.

Cosmically activated by the smell of something sporty such as liniment. If he isn’t into the locker room scene he may instead crave something spearminty. Think grassy or fresh. He warns to hear: Don’t fence me in! The philosopher of love, Eros in Saggo craves candor. Incapable of sneaky behavior or mind games, he likes to express feelings freely, on his terms and an expansive context. He sees love as a trip and this guy is an inveterate traveller. He loves the idea of two total individuals together on the same journey. His heart engages only after a fun and life-enhancing friendship has been established. He likes to hear you say ‘come away with me’. Romance is his escape and not a necessary.


This position of Eros in Capricorn has powerful concepts about what is good and what is not. Eros in Capricorn looks for perfection in all quarters of the partner.

Capricorn may sublimate its earthy and ardent desires for sensual contact and intimacy through the ever-present demands of work. Productivity, attainment, and a feeling of self-sufficiency are vital qualities for Capricorn and they like to see them in the partner as well as themselves.
Eros in Capricorn has a powerful need to connect in a physical sense and has some objections to intimacy as well. This sign is acknowledged as one of the most difficult to get to know. They do not open up easily and they may not stay open long.

Eros in Capricorn. ( in )These natives are sensual and earthy in their sexual desires. The libido is strong, but controlled. Saturn-ruled Capricorn is a sign that likes to be in control—not necessarily in control of others, but in control of themselves. Many Eros in Capricorn people channel much of their desire nature into accomplishing something significant.

Do you see how unclothed Love smiles and looks so gentle? He has no torches, nor bows which he could bend. But in one of his hands he bears flowers, in the other a fish. That’s to say he sets the law on land and sea. –Alciato

Eros in Capricorn says, “touch me, buy me things, and balance the books if you think you are qualified”. This position of Eros has powerful concepts about what is good and what is good enough. There is a need for competence and capability that the earthy sign of Taurus would never consider important. Eros in Capricorn is looking for a type of tangible perfection in the other or failing that, a certificate of completion at least.

Capricorn may sublimate its earthy and very ardent desires for sensual contact and intimacy through the ever-present demands of work. Productivity, attainment, and a feeling of self-sufficiency are vital qualities for Capricorn and they like to see them in the partner as well as themselves.

The third of the EARTH signs, Eros in Capricorn has a powerful need to connect in a physical sense and may also have equally powerful reservations, fears and objections to intimacy. Caution is the watchword. This sign is acknowledged as one of the most difficult to get to know. They do not open up easily and they may not stay open long.

The paradox is that Capricorn is extremely sensual and sexual in a very earthy, potent, Pan-like way. Its symbol is half goat after all and the implication of fertility and sexuality imbibe the image. They have all the desires of Taurus lounging side by side with their deep well of fear.

Cosmically activated by success without drama. She craves status without gaudiness, which is not always easy. The clean, successful statement of silver and sapphire meets the brief. She wants to hear: I’ll look after this. Eros in Capricorn can’t help but be drawn to the self-made man. A guy in charge of his destiny, the boss man, the rainmaker -and these are her archetypes of maleness. Luckily, she tends to scare off those she would consider dilettantes or wimps, leaving the field clear for her alpha-male ideal. Oddly enough, her preferences are often even more clearly delineated by early romantic experiences with immature men who bring only chaos and mess. This makes her even more certain that the love she craves must take place in a defined structure with rules.

Cosmically activated by the sweet smell of success. He likes the whole package to be clean like Virgo and non-vulgar like Leo, but so understated like the faint waft of professionally blow-dried hair. He wants to hear: Financial independence turns me on. The player of love treats romance with respect. Whether he lets on to her or not, he is auditioning applicants for the position of life partner. Eros in Capricorn is into strategic courtship. Watch for his Princess and the Pea-style tests. Worldly and assured, he’s after a liaison that not only fulfils his lusty sensual requirements Urn is mutually supportive. His true soulmate is, above all else, appropriate to where he feels he is heading in life. Chaos tempts him not. He loves the idea of the couple that schemes together to rise above, becoming more than the sum of their parts.


This position of Eros carries a high voltage charge with it. Eros in Aquarius desires the weird, the wonderful and the unusual. He thrives on the unexpected  and is not fond of the traditional and avoids the beaten track.

Eros in the sign of Aquarius  has a disposition bordering on the bizarre. He crosses boundaries as if they did not exist and skips the lines of gender and protocol . Eros in Aquarius gets bored with routine and needs intriguing conversation and somewhat unconventional themes to keep his interest aroused. He also needs a lot of freedom.

Eros in Aquarius. ( in )These lovers are intrigued by the unusual, finding variety exciting. The detachment of Aquarius can mean finding sensuality in non-contact scenarios in addition to contact ones. Sexual creativity is one of the strengths of this position. Their open minds with regards to sex can stimulate creativity in their partner.

…I have never seen nor heard your name without a shiver half of delight, half of anxiety –Edgar Allan Poe

Eros in Aquarius says, “surprise me, shock me, amazement me!” This position of Eros carries a high voltage charge with stimulating encounters that need a lot of air space to conduct electromagnetic charms. Eros in Aquarius desires the weird, the wonderful and the unusual. He thrives on the unexpected and luxuriates in situations that make the more traditional signs squirm with embarrassment.

Eros in the sign of the Water Bearer has a disposition bordering on the bizarre. He crosses boundaries as if they did not exist and skips the lines of gender and protocol like a child playing hop-scotch. If it is unusual and invigorating, he is probably interested.

The third of the AIR signs, Eros in Aquarius gets bored with routine and needs intriguing conversation and somewhat unconventional themes to keep his interest aroused. He also needs a lot of freedom.

Cosmically activated by amethyst, aka ‘metamorphosis’. She is working at an elevated psychic level, so give her the rock that converts energies from low to high. Heavy stuff. She warns to hear: This is about us, it’s not about the rules. Her lover ideal is a rebel, nonconformist and politically progressive free spirit. She cares not for convention and often recoils from socially sanctioned lovers. Her dream is that she can have a relationship of equals, unmarred by fuddy-duddy ideas of what a love affair ought to be. The sexist or patronizing male does not stand a chance with this woman. Her heart is essentially free and the true lover of Eros in Aquarius is the man who wouldn’t want to fence her in, even if he could. She’s willing to wait for as long as it takes for that one guy who understands her on the spot.

Cosmically activated by the weird fragrances, the avant-garde, hard-to-find scents that are talking points in themselves, Eros in Aqua loves metallic and/or fruity fragrances. He wants to hear: You’re not like the other guys. Socially progressive, Eros in Aquarius believes in love Utopia. He can appear unfeeling because his romantic ideals involve mind enmeshment. His heart only softens with intellectual equality. He is incapable of playing loyalty-testing games to ensure that he is able to let his guard down. The cant of romance bores him senseless. Eros in Aquarius can forget your birthday, let alone love anniversaries, but show the deepest tenderness in unexpected ways. He is easily bored with social convention – drive him away quickly by making such obligations an essential part of your relationship.


Eros in Pisces wants to lose all sense of where his being ends and another begins. Eros in Pisces desires a return to paradise. He is willing to give up his own identity, allowing it to melt and merge with the beloved until they are no longer distinct but part of a greater whole. Eros here could be in its exaltation, the affinity is that great.

This position of Eros represents the dissolving of the self into the other and all the pain, longing, suffering and ecstasy that process may involve. It suggests the beauty and creativity seen only through the lives of lovers who have touched each other’s spirits.

Eros in Pisces. ( in )There is a chameleon in this position of Eros, as these lovers are very adaptable to their partner. This is not to say these lovers don’t have sexual preferences or possess a strong identity. Instead, the Pisces compassion, and ability to understand and accept virtually every color of the rainbow shows through in a sexual/romantic way. They tend to be most comfortable and at ease when their partner is expressing him or herself confidently. This position also suggests a passion for Pisces-ruled subjects.

Held fast in a faience of sea changes
While waves queue offshore in glittering strings;
Till love’s continuum rearranges,
The persevering sea harbors all things.–E.F. Mosher

Eros in Pisces says, “merge into the depths with me”! Here Eros wants to lose all sense of where his being ends and another begins. Eros in Pisces desires a return to paradise, a drink from the Holy Grail and union with the divine. He is willing to give up his own identity, allowing it to melt and merge with the beloved until they are no longer distinct but part of a greater whole. This is the state of the mystic and the universe of the quantum physicist. It is the persistent longing of Pisces and the dreaded fear of almost every other sign. Eros here could be in its exaltation, the affinity is that great.

This position of Eros, the third of the WATER signs, represents the dissolving of the self into the other and all the pain, longing, suffering and ecstasy that process may involve. It also embraces the mysterious sense of the ineffable, something seldom glimpsed for long in any relationship. It suggests the beauty and creativity seen only through the lives of lovers who have touched each other’s spirits. It is indeed a big call for the average relationship to achieve.

Cosmically activated by a stone that enhances her interest in the metaphysical. Eros in Pisces is connected to other worlds, and aquamarine’s oceanic association is a great balancer. She wants to hear: You have a temper? I hadn’t noticed. These girls are after Mr Unconditional Love. ‘Do what thou wilt and I’ll still adore you, darling’ has to be the motto of he who would score her love. She is a frank admirer of men who are visionary, genius or artistic. Normality sends her shrieking off into the wilderness. Ditto what she considers to be petty judgments and silly expectations. Most of all, she wants to be with the guy who is truly compassionate. The harsh and cynical man is anathema to her tender soul. Naturally, the singer of love songs or the writer of beautiful poetry has a huge head start with her.

Cosmically activated by ylang- ylang essential oil. Unlike most men, Eros in Pisces is interested in complexity and mystery. If in doubt, try anything that’s oriental. But, make sure you use it sparingly. He wants to hear: I’m so in love with you. Eros in Pisces is the king of love and the most romantic sign of all. He yearns for the all-enveloping romance, one ‘that annihilates walls between the lovers and fulfills childhood dreams of The One. This man is capable of unconditional acceptance. Wildly compassionate, he can’t truly in love with a woman mean-hearted. Cynical arrangements or merely ‘convenient’ relationships hardens his heart. Yet, because he believes in love, he can easily be hurt by those who fail to grasp his inner goodness.

Eros in houses

Eros in the First House

And as concerning reality the impression we get of it is not the same as the perception. –Aristotle

When Eros resides in the first house of the natal chart, it gains additional significance. This is especially true if it is found within ten degrees either side of the Ascendant. Here Eros takes on first house importance adding his flavor to the sign or signs and any other planets found there.

In this position, Eros contributes towards the general approach to life. It may indicate how plans are initiated, action taken or dilemmas worked out. It may not mean that we have an erotic approach to initiation, but that we tend to encounter the erotic when taking action or presenting ourselves to the world.

Eros in the Second

May I ask whether you inherited most of your possessions or acquired them yourself? –Plato

The second house traditionally rules money, values, resources and innate capabilities. It has a lot to do with valuing our self as a unique individual and can give indications of tangible longings, desires and aspirations.

People with Eros in the second house may value the erotic union as a resource or reserve. An erotic manner may reside with them comfortably like an inborn perception of what they are worth, what they deem estimable. This may actualize as a subtle undertone in some, or a brash and even overbearing urgency in others.

Eros in the Third House

I’m skilled at introducing new ideas every time out, each one different from the other and all of them good.–Aristophanes

The third house traditionally deals with ideas, communication, learning, short journeys and siblings. It describes the early environment and local community, left brain activity or the rational mind, and our attitude to leaning and knowledge in general. If consciousness is, as Richard Idemon used to say, “what we think and what we think we think,” the third house is the arena of that consciousness. It is the way in which we think we perceive the environment.

When Eros resides in the third house, communication itself can become an erotic experience. The written and expressed word, the transmission of information and the act of learning or teaching may all create an experience of erotic transformation for those involved. These can be people who really enjoy writing letters, keeping a diary or journal or getting up and making a speech.

Eros in the Fourth House

Now after my long day’s labour sloping towards an evening of repose, has relaxed my energies by suggesting the charms of family life. –Cicero

The forth house is the domain of the family, emotional security and sense of belonging at the very roots of our being. Astrologer Joanne Wickenburg says, if the Ascendant is WHO you are, the IC, and subsequent fourth house, is WHAT you are. Often it also represents what we like to hide from others.

This house symbolizes the external home, the family emotional inheritance, a parent, domestic affairs and the country of origin. When Eros is found in this house the erotic links closely together with experiences of home and family. Eros loves to hide in the fourth house and there may be a secretive approach to erotic love.

Eros in the Fifth House

and those who devote themselves to music and letters and to the various contests, some by exhibiting their strength and others their artistic skill, win for themselves greater honor. –Isocrates

The fifth house is the traditional residence of entertainment. It encompasses the playful heart, the creative spirit and romantic pleasures. It is the house of the inner child and the outer speculator, the actual children and the latent rock star in everyone.

The fifth house has to do with self-expression and that includes offspring, art work, novels, and romances because they all activate the heart and engender feelings of uniqueness that makes us feel special. That is, when everything is going smoothly. These areas of life also put us in a place of utmost vulnerability not just to the art critic and the gene pool but to those experiencing the inner child. The fifth house rules speculation because we risk the child-like and creative qualities in the harsh reality of potential judgment and condemnation. There is no guarantee how we will measure up.

Eros in the Sixth

In constructing a homestead, we have to provide for the stock which it is to shelter, and for its health and well being.–Aristotle

The sixth house traditionally represents daily routine, work and employment, health of the body and health services, small domestic pets, service in general, tools and gadgets. The common thread here includes the need to establish ritual and routine, through organization, commitment and concern, in the every day life. It also describes the ways and means we accomplish and perfect those daily routine tasks.

When Eros is found in the house of skill development, service, health and daily routine, one may have some finely tuned proficiency when it comes to passionate and romantic love. They may see the body as a vessel that provides for the delights and erotic passions of the beloved and be inclined to perfect their ability to give and receive those delights. They may find the merging and transformation an erotic union offers desirable on a daily basis!

Eros in the Seventh House

When marriage is on equal terms, in my opinion it is no cause for dread; so never may the love of the mightier gods cast on me its irresistible glance. –Aeschylus

The seventh house traditionally represents personal one-to-one relationships including marriage, business partnerships, counselors and clients, long-term unions, or even open adversaries that engage in on going debate. In this house, commitment reigns although the stage often hosts more than a dance for two.

Eros in the seventh prefers close partnerships to include erotic, transformational unions of the most powerful kind. The very nature of erotic love, however, suggests the stability, commitment and endurance of the seventh house (a divorced relationship involving children can last a life-time) contradicts the risk taking, changeable nature of Eros. Enter the triangle.

Eros in the Eighth House

How does one describe a trip to the underworld? –Homer

The eighth house traditionally rules sex, death and taxes, and their transformational effects. It also pertains to depth analysis, research and occult knowledge. The eighth house rules things of mystery, intrigue and intensity. The thread that binds the eighth house scenery together consists of elements in life that require us to make a leap of faith, to take a risk and discover the unknown within. There are no guarantees in the eighth and no way to be sure that once we make a commitment to intimacy, a belief system or a political party, that the implicit trust will be honored.

Eros in the eighth suggests an affinity with the purpose of the house: to take risks, to offer up something precious, to feel to the depths of the soul and to hope for transformation in return. Those with Eros in this house have an increased desire to experience the erotic on a very deep level of their existence. They may also have a highly increased fear around doing so. The two can go hand in hand.

Eros in the Ninth House

For am I now seeking the favor of men, or of God? –St. Paul

The ninth house traditionally rules spiritual beliefs, long journeys, higher education, foreign cultures, ceremonies and rituals, publishing and clergymen. These categories all have the common effect of exposing us to areas of mind, body or spirit, that have never been experienced before. Thus, Dennis Elwell described the ninth house as an exploration into the unknown.

When Eros falls in the ninth house, discovery of new and previously incomprehensible concepts, peoples or vistas ignite feelings of passionate wonder and intrigue. This Eros is aroused by new information, strange landscapes and mysterious cultures. The act of gaining this information can be an erotic experience in itself.

Eros in the Tenth House

He was, therefore, elated over his fame and had recourse to many other far more ambitious undertakings which would serve to increase the dominant position of his native state. –Siculus

The midheaven (MC) and the corresponding tenth house traditionally denotes the career, mission or profession, one of the parents, and the social image and known reputation. Howard Sasportas said that the qualities of any sign or planet in the tenth house correspond to what is most visible and accessible to others. It is what stands out.

The tenth house indicates how others perceive us and those with Eros here want the world to know they are passionate, erotic, potent and charismatic. The way they dress, speak and move may all have a subtle undertone of Eros. Some people with this placement may even make a career out of studying, teaching or living out the erotic and transformational side of life. Certainly, it would be of major importance for them to express, especially if early childhood experiences lead to the denial and repression of the god of love.

Eros in the Eleventh House

They are each, then, others of each other, in groups; for they cannot be so one at a time… –Plato

The eleventh house is traditionally associated with groups, hopes and wishes, membership in organizations, relationships to friends and advisors and goals for the future. It has been tagged as the desire to be more than what we already are, as happens when joined to a group or association. It is also the desire to be everything we can possibly be, as reflected in what we wish and hope for. This house represents a stretching beyond the individual identity that pushes out into the lager world as a whole.

When Eros is found in the eleventh house, friendships, groups and goals take on a potent and possibly passionate quality. We may experience friends as triggers for erotic feelings, transformations or creative turning points. Whether a person with an eleventh house Eros passionately merges with a friend or that friendship inspires them to experience the erotic through another person matters little. The important point is that through friendship, the god of love awakens.

Eros in the Twelfth House

It is some solemn secret, surely, that you enshroud in mystery. –Aeschylus

The twelfth house is a place of mystery. Isabel Hickey called it the house of drawn shades, a region where we must serve or suffer. Traditionally it rules secret enemies, institutions such as prisons, hospitals and asylums and other places of generalized pain and suffering, hidden activities, exile and seclusion.

Sometimes Eros here awakens through injury, suffering or confinement. The case of the doctor and patient, alcoholic and counselor, or even bereaved brother and widow come to mind. There can even be an erotic relationship between criminal and the officer of the law, as in the archetypal relationship between the brilliant detective Sherlock Holmes and his equally genius archenemy, Professor Moriarty. These kinds of unions make short work of the traditionally acceptable and they may embody an extreme bitterness, yet their potential for transform is infinite. The very taboo and suffering quality seems to make them all the more potent.

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Asteroid Psyche in signs


The native likes  the thrill of someone falling madly in love with and pursuing them at all costs. You enjoy feeling valued by someone and find security in hearing this from your lover/partner.

Cosmically activated by crimson flowers of all types. With her, you should say it large, say it with scarlet. Types like roses, tulips, gerberas. She likes anything that’s boldly burgundy. She needs to know that she is feminine. Psyche in Aries is the warrior queen. Headstrong, a thrill-seeker and imbued with a strong sense of entitlement, she charges young into romance. The initial approach to love is combative and her high demands scare many men off. Psyche in Aries can be too strong, sticking in a vile relationship because she is ‘not a wimp’. Truly in love, she learns that a love affair need not involve a constant power struggle. She needs, more than most, someone exciting and tough enough to earn her respect but who is also tender with her well-concealed dreams of love.

Cosmically activated by a powerful bass riff. He turns onto music via the beat and this is the way to his heart. He knows how to vibe in a sophisticated way, but he’s a closet metal-head. He needs to know that he will not be lied to. His dream girl isn’t even a girl – she’s a dominatrix. This guy is fearless and in no way intimidated by the strong female dynamic. He is confident enough about his masculinity to flip things around and become playful or even passive if he feels like it. He falls for women other men would consider officially difficult. This man is not remotely threatened by her success, opinions or charisma. But he can’t bear to be lied to and will always honor his lover’s candor. He loves the energetic and positive woman.


This position is  the embodiment of sexuality. You want others  to find you attractive. You are also attracted to people who give gifts of love.

Cosmically activated by wildflowers gathered just for her. Try dandelions, moss, herbs, flowers with therapeutic meaning. The ultimate? Something you’ve grown yourself or perhaps something you can drink? She needs to know that her allure is working. Psyche in Taurus is the natural born seductress who trusts her sensual instincts above all. Her vital indicators of love are the scent of her mate and pleasurable skin-to-skin contact. However, if the fingertips don’t zing off one another at first touch, she turns off. Flighty, on-off-on-again guys need not apply. However, these types will still swarm around her, longing to be soothed by that aura. A true sybarite, she is drawn to abundance. Nature and stability evoke her deep inner serenity.

Cosmically activated by the music of his youth. The Psyche in Taurus man lives in a world of how things should be. He needs you to totally ‘get’ the tunes he is most loyal to. He needs to know that frequent sex is not an issue. Psyche in Taurus is the guy in love with a figment. Okay, a time-tested classic ideal of beauty and femininity. He secretly yearns for the swimsuit-model type who’ll cook him a carb-loaded dinner or the mogul woman, ‘wealthy in her own right but who trusts his financial advice. Yes, it’s tricky, all right, but easier to handle once you remember that he’s enraptured by his sensual urges, an utter lover of beauty arid aesthetics. No matter what his prowling habits, he longs for a settled and stable love existence. Once he is taken, he rarely gazes into other pastures.


You are drawn to powerful personalities who are able to switch between staying home and painting the town. You also enjoy mates who challenge your intellect. 

Cosmically activated by a surprise posy. She officially thinks flowers are a cheap romantic trick. But, if you pull out the totally unexpected, for-no-reason bouquet, she melts. She needs to know that she will be amused. The muse of love and a sparkling wit, she is able to spin the mundane into sparkling fresh vistas. Psyche in Gemini is comfortable with romantic ambiguity to the point of perhaps even preferring it. She trusts her mind, staying where the stimulation is, needing both to amuse and be amused. Her romantic ideal is to be a co-conspirator in love, the true companion and confidante of her soulmate. She quickly realizes that Mr (You-Figure-It-Out) Taciturn is not for her. Complex and beguiling, she is literally terrified of dull people.

Cosmically activated by whatever he has not heard before. Don’t bother this guy with songs of meaning, just amaze him with something gimmicky. With his fickleness, he loves compilation albums. He needs to know that change is okay. The guy with Psyche in Gemini will put up with sly and fickle vixenly types. Actually, he prefers it that way. If a woman wants to mess with this guy’s mind he tells them to go ahead. He loves it. In fact, without a willing partner in his innuendo, wit and sibling-combative-banter games, this love affair won’t even begin. A variety buff, his true love is a multifaceted minx-witch type, never the same persona for two days running. His true love is complicated. However, he is neither boring nor a whiner nor into making turgid emotional demands. Remember, his Psyche is symbolized by The Twins.


You tend to take on nurturing or motherly roles, not necessarily with everyone, but definitely with your lover/partner. You will go out of your way to make a partner happy.

Cosmically activated by water lilies. To trigger the nurturing but complex depths of the Cancerian Psyche, bring anything that grows in the water, or November lilies. Think lush. She needs to know that she is safe. She is the empress of hearts, a woman of profound nurturing instincts and compassion. Some wince at the ‘lame duck’ guy — she sees only the swan-in-waiting. Her all understanding mien attracts many not-so-suitable suitors. Spookily, she is able to morph into whatever guise feels most appropriate for the circumstances. Yet this Psyche must take care to stay attuned to her own true needs and avoid wandering around lost in the desire-driven projections of others. Highly emotional and intuitive, she needs a lover to cherish her extreme sensitivities.

Cosmically activated by emotive music. It could be classical or New Age, perhaps Ennio Morricone. What does it for Psyche in Cancer is a musical piece from their belle époque. He needs to know there’s a safe place for his feelings. The sign of Cancer is linked to the goddess Psyche, so the man with Psyche in Cancer seems to have a direct line into the female soul. Combine that with his deep subconscious drive for total security — that is, back to the womb and he can be the classic womanizer. His relationship with his mother or a key maternal figure is intensely important and provides the key to his romantic self-expression. His feminine ideal is totally womanly, soft and giving. She is a natural-born nurturer of both children and animals, a total girl’s girl and spontaneously artistic or creative.


You are able to discern the best in people and bring that out. You are attracted to charming, good-looking people. You also have a tendency to project onto your partner the way you want to be. 

Cosmically activated by yellow flowers such as sunflowers, marigolds, daffodils, yellow roses. The Psyche in Leo girl is at the centre of her universe. Maybe the Sun Goddess rose… She needs to know that she is the star. Psyche in Leo is the showgirl at heart, needing admiration from more than just one-quarter of the male population true happiness. A born creative spirit, that flees fast from mediocrity. She makes men giddy and she fancies the idea of being dizzy with love. The first moments of a crush are heaven for Psyche in Leo. But herein lies the problem. She craves a love beyond all others, the greatest love show on earth. But what relationship can actually live up to that? Easily bedazzled by good looks, her heart’s true fulfillment lies in manifesting her own star quality.

Cosmically activated by glitzy music. He may have a secret collection of songs from the New Romantic period. Or he adores OTT pomp 1ike, the 1982 Overture. Make sure it’s grand. He needs to know that everyone else wanted her. His inner ideas of the ultimate woman is a superstar – gorgeous, acclaimed and his. The man with Psyche in Leo fantasizes about -or has! – a life of success and luxury of which his woman is one of the most important indicators. He likes the glitz, glam and psychodrama of love, someone who is a personage in her own right, a prima diva by nature and yet also warm, generous and talented. Frankly, he needs to feel that she is an ‘object’ of some worth and status. His inspiration is old Hollywood movies. Think golden, think bombshell.


You show your affection to someone who accepts them unconditionally. You are usually concerned about what the lover can bring to the table. Once smitten, you are very generous of your time and material resources.

Cosmically activated by rushes, river grasses, or one of those lettuce arrangements. She likes anything that’s green. Her vampish knowingness and grasp of nuance suggest an arrangement of kale with sword ferns. She needs to know that it’s more than good sex. Psyche in Virgo is the vamp of love and the mistress of nuance. Whatever her lover’s unspoken fantasies or secret motivations, she’s onto it. She’s slinky, suave and so totally together that it’s holistic. But Psyche in Virgo frets, yearning for someone to show the same grasp of her details. She wants to be finessed, to have someone remember her favorite poem or the thread of the conversation from three months ago. Utterly sensual, she is nonetheless most enticed by a deep mental affinity, by someone who understands her with no explanations needed.

Cosmically activated by clever, even difficult: music. Don’t think that just because he’s into jazz, it means he wants to dance. When he says jazz he means goatees and berets. He needs to know that details count for something. The man with Psyche in Virgo longs for someone to understand him on every level. But this trick must somehow be accomplished with a high degree of sophistication. He loves the woman who can draw an intelligent conclusion without him having to spell things out. His Ms Ideal is meticulous without making a big fuss of it, and someone who is together, worldly and witty. Eschewing mess and living an out here lifestyle, she is dean-living and discreet. Intensely moral, Psyche in Virgo appreciates a ‘good’ woman who respects his need for privacy.


You are fascinated by partners with striking looks, possibly to the detriment of other aspects, in order to indulge the fantasy of the relationship. Usually you get wise to this tendency in due time. You treat everyone around you lavishly.

Cosmically activated by pink flowers. The Psyche in Libra woman is girly-girly in love and she prefers subtle shades. Think pink: fuchsias, pink gerberas, coral carnations. She needs to know that she will be allowed to breathe. Psyche in Libra is the dream girl of many but her own heart remains somehow detached – a skilful romantic player but somehow disengaged from the action. So sophisticated in the arts of love, she is also too smart for many of her would-be lovers. The Libran Psyche requires someone with her own depth of sophistication and worldliness. She can’t handle too much emotional intensity or someone who sees a relationship as simply a socially convenient unit. Rife with ambiguity, she wants to be doted upon, yet at the same time afforded her precious personal space.

Cosmically activated by elegant quartets and beautiful singing. Gorgeous music is perfect for the Psyche in Libra; it reaffirms his love of beauty while letting him stay distant. He needs to know that she is a mystery. Psyche in Libra likes mysterious beauties. Familiarity can create contempt with this guy and perhaps the next step is longing for the new stimuli. He can wind up in love with the general concept of ‘woman’ but, really, he is ducking the challenge of true romance. His other method for avoiding the nitty-gritty of reality? Being madly in love with another man’s woman. If her situation changes he may lose interest faster than he loses her phone number. His feminine ideal is lovely, supernaturally elegant and smart. She stays forever just a few steps in front of him, creating that elusive quality he prizes so highly.


You tend to be secretive about  your true feelings, including sexual feelings. You also tend to be reserved when expressing yourself until you  feel absolutely comfortable. Once committed, you take the relationship very seriously and will do anything to keep it going.

Cosmically activated by something growing. It has to be viable, alive and a bit different from the run of the mill. A cactus? A feng shui money plant? She also has a soft spot for berries. She needs to know that she will not belied to. The enchantress of love, Psyche in Scorpio is a strategist. Preferring to bewitch rather than be bedazzled, she moves in quietly and presents herself in many different guises. Her ultimate love goal is the ‘nothing but you’ paradigm. Should she be involved in a mere fling, her standards are almost impossible for anyone to live up to. She is a super control freak, running the dalliance on her terms, like it or not. The lover who betrays her trust to even the teeniest degree is out that door, forgotten in a moment. She knows her journey to find The One.

Cosmically activated by intense, brooding pieces with eerie instrumentals or featuring depressing ‘poetry’. He often selects his music based on how the musician lived or died. He needs to know why another man’s photo is in her wallet. Bring it on! Psyche in Scorpio engenders the man who is ready for the big challenges. His ideal woman is intense, complicated and difficult. He can be the biggest womanizer on earth but, secretly, this guy yearns for the grand passion, for the female who awakens every cell of his being. His ideal girl is spiritual, creative, bold and beautiful, as amazed by the Universe as he is and just as much of an ‘extreme-o-phile). He’s totally into true togetherness. Once in love, he wants to merge. Despising sycophants, he loves the woman who is first true to herself.


You are attracted to someone worldly, ethnically diverse, philosophically-oriented, and free-spirited. You are able to give others the freedom to be who they really are.

Cosmically activated by plants that make a political statement. She loves natives, especially the ones that have been ousted by exotics over the years. She adores the eco dimension. She needs to know that she will not be forced to be someone else. Psyche in Saggo is the adventuress, the most free-spirited lover of all. She is at her most ecstatic during a ‘You understand me, you really do!’ moment with a new love interest, in her soul she is a child at play in the sometimes too-grown-up world of adult relationships. There is always a wild child in the heart of this woman. She would throw over a sensible liaison in two seconds – even if only in her mind – just to experience the bliss of the moment. No matter how fixed her reality, her heart may only be unlocked by a fellow visionary wanderer.

Cosmically activated by loud rock ‘n’ roll or gratuitously ‘free love’ hippie music.?The Psyche-in-Saggo guy sees himself as a free spirit who needs a sexy soundtrack. He needs to know that she is untamable. The return of the lotus-eater; the man with Psyche in Saggo loves the woman who expands his horizons, blows his mind and then flits off unencumbered. His ideal girl is fun-loving, utterly uninhibited and able to relate to anyone. He is incapable of setting boundaries for the woman he loves – the louder and more vivacious she is the better. In his mind he wants to be in Shangri-la with his fun-loving adventure girl and someone who says about the impossible dream, let’s just do it!’ She is completely candid -this man can’t handle manipulators – and feels that she is as unlike ‘the others’ as he does.


You are attracted to emotionally mature and stable individuals who can also provide an outlet for your romantic fantasy. Sexual intimacy is a longing, and once fulfilled, you  feel like you have everything in life.

Cosmically activated by a mauve journey of status. Psyche in Cap is switched on by nature’s finest like orchids, tulips and dahlias … but not in red. Stay elegant and stick to lavender. She needs to know that she is The Trophy. Worldly and assured, Psyche in Capricorn is the prima diva of love. A true trophy bride for a hero, she is adept at scoring the guy that no-one else can get. Until Mr Perfect comes along, her heart is often a no-fly zone. Her secret soul is well enclosed, protecting her from exploitation. Mature love often becomes her more than the games of early youth, where her gifts can be overshadowed by some tougher competition. She is a work-in-progress, learning from life as she goes along, honing her extreme sensuality and insight.

Cosmically activated by Top 40 soft rock. Not man who likes to be sidetracked, Mr Psyche in Cap keeps to the musical straight and narrow. If in doubt, check where his car radio is tuned. He needs to know that the pursuit of success will be mutual. This is the alpha guy in love. The dream girl of the guy with Psyche in Capricorn is a classic Type-A personality: vibrant, demanding and ambitious. He is most easily turned off by the victim stance or by a woman who wants to coast along on someone else’s slog to success. His ideal female has poise, goals and a plan on which to structure her life. He likes the ones who don’t need him. In fact, icy indifference inspires his ardor far more than over-the-top declarations of needy emotion. He fantasizes about being one part of a dynamic duo. These two are an unbeatable power couple.


You like to put a little bubble around yourself  and your  lover and bask in the fulfillment of your hopes, wishes, and dreams. You like to be acknowledged for your unique and special qualities and do not like to compete for affection.

Cosmically activated by the Zen approach. Psyche in Aqua leans heavily to the simple yet powerful. Think bamboo, ikebana but not bonsai. Watch her thrill to the perfect origami. She needs to know this is for real. From an early age, Psyche in Aquarius knows that she is unconventional in love. The druidess of romance, she is euphorically independent, unwilling to be ‘grounded’ by any but the most ideal of men. The source of her power lies in her refusal to be anyone but her authentic self. Her dream relationship is a true companionship, mutually supportive beyond the dreams of most love affairs. Breathtakingly frank, she has no time for playing games and typical romantic cant. Her only true love is the man strong enough to let her be her utterly complicated self.

Cosmically activated by German synthesizer bands and symphonies played entirely with drums. He has odd tastes in music: do your , homework before giving him a Céline Dion CD. He needs to know that his mindwill be stimulated. Luckily, for some women, the man with Psyche in Aquarius is a connoisseur of female eccentricity. His ideal woman is a clear-thinking, way-ahead-of-her-time type of individual. A natural-born feminist sympathizer, he is not particularly keen on the usual ‘tricks’ of seduction and instead relishes the great minds thinking alike paradigm. He likes it when a lover can challenge his preconceptions and turn him on to new ways of thinking about ‘the obvious’. Though a romantic player when he wants to be, his soulmate must first access his mind and form a friendship.


You seek partners who can express the utmost love and adoration and partners who can help you escape a routine life. You  tend to attract attention through illnesses if your  needs are not being met to your fullest expectation.

Cosmically activated by white flowers. Whether they’re conspicuous gardenias, sexy jasmine or mysterious Apache plumes, this girl adores the intricate scent of such blooms. She needs to know that her sensitive side is also acknowledged. Jaded as she may pretend to be, Psyche in Pisces is love’s princess, the most romantic of them all. This is a woman who never gives up on her girlhood dreams of true love. Compassionate and blessed with the magic gift of being able to love unconditionally, her kindness can lead her up many a wrong track. Under estimate this woman at your own peril. She likes to project vulnerability but is actually the Psyche sign most capable of reinvention. She needs a lover sensitive enough to see beyond the myriad of personae that she tries on for fun and to nurture the sweet ‘child’ within.

Cosmically activated by sexy, maybe even the girl bands and female singers. He’s openly interested in sex and the idea of the sexy chanteuse. Loves female musicians being raunchy or naughty. He needs to know that she is cuddly but difficult. Psyche in Pisces wants the impossible in a woman — an intriguing blend of vixenly cunning and baby-like innocence. His fantasy of the perfect woman is the most idealistic of all and can easily keep him from forming a real-life romance. His soulmate has to be someone fluid of personality, forever in flux, and yet also firm enough to keep a grip on herself amid the changing projections of Psyche in Pisces. Easily beguiled by beauty, he can also be at risk of falling in unrequited love. What better way to ensure that the excitement and allure he craves do not become overly real?


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Synastry: love asteroids

The Love Asteroids: Cupido (763), Amor (1221), Eros (433) and Psyche (16)
By C. Marguerite Hafeman

So much more information and insight on romantic issues can be found by looking at the natal positions of those asteroids most commonly associated with the pursuit of love. Let’s take a cruise on down past Venus and Mars, check out how Cupido, Amor, Eros and Psyche can make the dance of love that much more piquant and complex.

Asteroid Cupido: In Greek myth, Cupid is the son of Venus; his job was to “wound” the unwary with his arrows of love; awaken a consuming affection directed towards a particular object of desire. In one well-known tale, Cupid becomes entangled with Psyche, a beautiful king’s daughter who has roused the jealousy of Venus; the tale is actually an allegory about how the soul obtains a true understanding of love by undergoing much suffering and hard experience.

In astrology, the asteroid Cupido by itself would perhaps be associated with the trials of love associated with the initial enthrallment and acts of seduction performed in order to obtain the love object, not the sexual act itself. Examples of an overactive Cupido can include crushes, cultivating romance for the sake of the game or putting the object of desire up on a pedestal. In the dark sense, romantic enthrallment can originate out of a love for the chase, only to abandon the prey once it is caught. Asteroid Cupido is not to be confused with Alfred Witt’s Uranian body Cupido, which is associated more with family, marriage, tantra and art.

The natal sign and house Cupido is in would indicate the style, tone and preferred arena of action for an individual’s romantic powers; aspects made to Cupido would pertain to the circumstances, positive or negative, under which one would be drawn into a dance of courtship with the object of love. Hard planetary aspects made to Cupido can relate either to that quality which particularly excites us in generating attraction or the barriers and obstacles we erect between ourselves and the object of desire. The latter could include actual physical obligations, hang-ups, fears, perfectionism, and a need for control or becoming enthralled with someone who is patently unobtainable. Or we may be essentially unobtainable ourselves, wrapped in a narcissic contemplation of the self. A strong Cupido in positive aspect to any of the planets would make one highly desirable to others in the ways expressed by the planet being aspected. For example, a native with a sixth house Cupido conjunct Venus in Capricorn and both in trine to a second house Saturn in Virgo could present as seductively overwhelming to someone turned on by financially stable, enterprising and fatherly authority figures.

Cupido unaspected or retrograde could relate to a tendency to repress and/or disown one’s own real needs in the exchange of love, instead sublimating these qualities to a set of conditions put forth by the desired object, or sublimation in favor of an unrealistic set of conditions that are then projected onto the desired object. The common pattern would be to fall in love with surface qualities first such as beautiful face and figure, a sweet demeanor, and a kind voice; then discover what the person is really like later. Often the proposed love object has no interest in fulfilling the others own personal needs for love and affection. Painful rejection happens because the Cupido person did not allow an honest appraisal of their own real needs in the first place, nor clearly perceived the needs and nature of the person being pursued. One has fallen for an image and a presentation, rather than the real person.

Natal sign position has an influence on Cupido’s style and tone. In Aries one is inclined to go directly and aggressively after the object of desire, however may not stay around once having “scored”. Placed in Gemini, Cupido can be a mark of the silver-tongued devil, the two-faced fella. A Cupido placed in Virgo could attract with clean, earthly sensuality or a penchant for organization. Going by the house, a first house Cupido for example represents someone whose personal image and presentation is calculated to magnetize infatuation in others. A fourth house placement may seduce through home cooking; in the ninth, perhaps wow dates with cultural events. A twelfth house Cupido might be prone to seduction via pornography or fantasy; can be fascinated with alternative forms of lovemaking or can become an object of compulsive desire, romance or erotic pleasuring for the collective. An example of a strongly placed Cupido who seduced the masses is Rudolph Valentino, premiere professional lover of the silver screen. He had Cupido in the twelfth house at 28° Virgo 43′ conjunct his Ascendant at 00°Libra 54′.

Asteroid Amor: Amor is the Roman god of love; the asteroid represents compassion, empathy and loving kindness. As astrologer Demetra George notes, Amor represents a state of loving rather than falling in love. Amor can represent love of anything dear to the heart; George suggests that the archetype functions as the intermediary between the sensual love of Venus and the higher, platonic love of Neptune. Astrologer Zane B. Stein relates Amor to idealized love and related feelings. This would be warmth and love as one believes it should be; a person with a strongly placed Amor believes in the notion of “true love” and searches for the “soul mate”. Martha Lang-Wescott notes that the sign, house and aspect pattern associated with Amor demonstrates conditions that are put on “unconditional giving and loving”; therefore the natal placement can show what keeps us from living up to our own ideals and expectations of what love really is. It can also symbolize what we substitute for love, what were our role models for love and our experience and examples of true, perfect and ideal love.

The natal house Amor occupies is where the person believes they will be able to express this highest form of love. Since the asteroid represents an ideal, if it is afflicted the person can feel incapable of achieving his ideal love or unworthy of being given love. One may even do self-sabotage in order to avoid experiencing love up close and real, since unconditional love does not easily exist within a framework of control and predictability. Zane suggests that planet in square or opposition to Amor can represent something else desirable that is preferred to love. One person’s Amor conjunct a planet in another’s chart brings feeling of love, however if that person also has a natal planet in hard aspect to Amor, it conflicts with the other person’s chart and the result is a volatile state of love/hate.

Amor in opposition to planets or other love asteroids can indicate a situation where opposites attract; the loved one functions as a devil’s advocate or as an expression of one’s own shadow. Hard aspects in general tends to link the native up with people whose concept of love and sharing is very different from their own, resulting in various distortions of the impulse to love such as withholding, manipulating, caretaking, domination-submission scenarios etc.

Amor retrograde could intensify perfectionist conditions placed on the attainment of love. Correspondingly, the individual can be overly idealistic, controlling or attach a list of entitlements to their definition of love; conversely they may be judgmental of humanity at large, or feel so intrinsically unlovable that they never reach out to anyone in love. They might again attract those who cannot and will not return their affections in a normal way. To the degree that the concept of love has been distorted (e.g. associated essentially with a certain standard of perfection, pain or sexual dysfunction,) will be the degree to which one attracts those who are unsuitable and even damaging to them.

The sign and house Amor is found in can indicate the nature of issues that can block or interferes with the exchange of or participation in earthly, obtainable love. For example, Amor in Taurus and the second house can be very materialistic, putting money before love; or they require a lover who will cater to all sensual demands, in and out of bed. Placed in Cancer and the sixth house Amor might represent a compulsive caretaker of those selected for appearing weak in some way or it could represent someone who makes excessive, child-like demands for nurturing on others. In Pisces one can attract experiences of victimization and exploitation in connection with love; placed in the third house they may haunt the local strip joints to find it. Asteroid Amor in Leo might require constant adulation and assurances for being the wonderful lover they think they are; placed in the tenth house, they may be adored as powerful authority figures. Rock musician Jimi Hendrix was born with asteroid Amor in his tenth house of career and public life, in square to Pluto and the Vertex of Fate in the eighth house of sex, death, power and occult influences. Jimi’s music certainly had an enchanting effect; the same combination points to the circumstances surrounding his untimely death from complications related to taking drugs.

Asteroid Eros: Demetra George states that Eros was “a primal, phallic god born out of Chaos (the Void) at the beginning of time.” He was later known as the son of Mars and Venus and was considered ruler of sexual desire. Ideally Eros is supposed to represent the tantric path of transforming instinctual sexual drive into skilled erotic love as a way to enlightenment. Beyond that, Eros is that which “turns us on”, an emotional force that drives the desire for physical, sexual consummation.

In a chart Eros would symbolize our passion, that which sexually attracts us, our sexual preference and the primal font of desire-energy. A person with a strong Eros would be moved to periodically re-create the experience of finding and being in love A well-represented Eros seeks regular physical contact with others, especially involving sex. Add charisma and the ability to charm anyone, especially if Eros is conjunct the Ascendant, Venus or Mars. Eros conjunct Sun, Moon, Venus or Mars can be quite liberal with their favors when circumstances permit. According to astrologer Zane Stein, if one person’s Eros makes an aspect to another person’s planet, then the Eros person is smitten with the planet person and planet person often returns the feeling, even if his Eros makes no reciprocal aspect.

Eros shows our longing for completeness and along with Amor provides clues for finding a “soul mate”. By aspect to another’s planets or points, it can also symbolize the force of love which can change that person’s life. Transiting Eros can be a harbinger of the new love affair or signal the appearance of sudden attractions, erotic feelings, thoughts and dreams. Astrologer Kim Falconers’s delineations of Eros by house, sign and aspect are recommended as a valuable resource for interpretation.

Martha Lang-Wescott mentions Eros retrograde as denoting a state where the sexual interests and compulsions of other people to which one is sexually attracted, create difficulty as in when a partner seeks satisfaction through internet porn instead of with an actual person. There can also be repression of the sex drive on occasion, sexual dysfunction, premature sexual experiences or a tendency to seek outlets for unconventional sexual fulfillment. Eros in quincunx aspect can represent guilt and over-reaction towards the sexual experience; a waning quincunx can show that others make you feel that you should do more to please the partner sexually. Actress Elizabeth Taylor, known for her sensual and seductive roles in cinema, has Eros at 4° Pisces 38′, right between her natal Mars at 1°Pisces 33′ and Sun-Mercury at 7° Pisces; all located in her third house of basic communications. This combination is given public focus by an opposition to dreamy and cinematic Neptune and asteroid Psyche, both retrograde at 6° Virgo in Elizabeth’s tenth house of career and public life.

Eros. The sign position of the Asteroid, Eros, can reveal some of our erotic turn-ons, as well as the level of our erotic nature.

Eros in Synastry

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The Asteroid Eros represents erotic love. Eros represents what turns us on. Eros represents our passionate and erotic energy and how we use it. When someone’s planet touches our natal Eros in synastry, it is as if we have been stuck by Cupid’s arrow. We are mesmerized, enchanted, and even obsessed with this person. You want to merge into this individual and build an intimate bond with them. It is generally thought that when your Eros makes an aspect to another person’s planet or point, you have a big crush on that person, and may even feel obsessed with them.

The conjunction is the most potent aspect, followed by the opposition. The square indicates attraction, but at the same time, friction and frustration. The trine and sextile are pleasing and harmonious, but the connection is not as intense as it is with the hard aspects.

Eros-Sun: This relationship will serve to help each person discover their erotic sides. The Eros person may feel obsessed with the Sun person, and the Sun person is turned on by the Eros person’s sexual energy. Just by being him/herself, the Sun person stimulates the Eros person’s sexual desires and need for intimacy. The Sun person feels more alive and energetic around the Eros person, as Eros puts the Sun person in touch with their most erotic, taboo desires.

Eros-Moon: This connection combines emotional love with erotic love. This is a very deep and intimate connection. The Eros person is deeply drawn to the Moon person’s emotional nature. Eros wants to experience a deep bond with the Moon person, based on emotional sharing and eroticism. The Moon person is deeply turned on by the Eros person’s intensity and sexual charisma. Eros forces the Moon person to get in touch with their erotic nature, while the Moon person makes the Eros person feel nurtured and understood.

Eros-Venus: This is an indication of an explosive and irresistible attraction. Eros is very drawn to the Venus person’s grace, charm, and beauty, and deeply desires intimacy with them. Venus is drawn to Eros’ sexual charisma and intensity. Venus’ sensuality turns on the Eros person’s sexual desires and erotic nature. Eros feels their senses are triggered when the Venus person is around them. This is a highly magnetic bond which borders on the irresistible!

Eros-Mars: This is one of my favorite Eros aspects! The god of erotic love meets the planet of sex! This is a very good indication of sexual compatibility. The two of you may be sexually obsessed with one another. The sex is very satisfying for the both of you. The difference between them is that the Mars person may see the sex as less of an erotic “merging” than the Eros person, but the attraction is nevertheless strong.

Eros-Jupiter: Eros’ feelings of love and passion are expanded by Jupiter’s jovial and optimistic nature. Jupiter shows Eros new ways of sexual expression, while Eros stimulates Jupiter’s desire for intimacy and passion. Eros is happy to have such an open-minded and generous lover.

Eros-Saturn: This connection sometimes indicates a love-hate scenario. The Eros person may feel that the Saturn person refuses to accept the attraction they have for the Eros person. Eros is nevertheless attracted to the Saturn person’s stability and maturity. Perhaps the Eros finds the Saturn person erotic in a “father figure” or authoritarian sort of way.

Eros-Uranus: This connection is electric and exciting. The Uranus person opens the Eros person’s mind to a variety of sexual possibilities. At the same time, Eros may feel disappointed when Uranus seems distant and hard to reach, as Eros desires complete intimacy and erotic merging with the Uranus person.

Eros-Neptune: This connection is both erotic and dreamy. As such, the passion and intimacy you share with one another is akin to a fairy tale romance. The Eros person stimulates the Neptune person’s sexual fantasies, and Eros is drawn to Neptune’s compassionate nature. Neptune intuitively understands what Eros wants and needs in terms of eroticism and intimacy, and gladly provides it.

Eros-Pluto: This is a great aspect, as both Eros and Pluto seek the same things when it comes to relationships: intensity, transformation, and a high level of intimacy. This is a highly obsessive and explosive union. The two will enjoy exploring sexual taboos with one another. They feel they are fated to be with one another. The attraction is magnetic and irresistible, and the couple might experience dramatic highs and lows throughout their relationship, due to the intensity of feelings involved.

Eros-Ascendant: The Eros person takes immediate notice of the Ascendant person. He finds her extremely sexy and physically attractive. The Ascendant person’s physical appearance triggers the Eros person’s most intense sexual feelings. Eros square Ascendant: The Eros person is very attracted to the Ascendant person, yet may at the same time feel that the Eros person is very different than who they are generally attracted to. Nevertheless, the Eros person’s erotic feelings are stimulated, and the desire is strong.

Eros-Descendant: The Eros person is irresistibly attracted to the Descendant person, while the Descendant person feels the Eros person is the lover of their dreams. The Eros person’s sexuality and passion are highly attractive to the Descendant person. The Eros person learns more about their sexual power and physical desires through their relationship with the Descendant person.

Eros-Psyche: Eros and Psyche are natural mates. If they are conjunct in synastry, a soul mate connection is indicated. Eros and Psyche were mythical lovers, and were brought together by fate. The story of Eros and Psyche is one of deep and transformative love, but their union was not devoid of hardship. In fact, the two of them had to go through significant lengths just to be together. When this aspect shows up in synastry, the relationship is bound to be significant in both their lives, but their relationship may not always be easy. The many hardships the couple will endure will only draw them closer together. The Psyche person may have dreamed of the Eros person before they even met. The Eros person finds the Psyche beautiful, not only on the outside, but on the inside, as well; Eros loves Psyche for her soul.

Eros-North Node: My ex boyfriend and I had this aspect in synastry, and boy was it hot! As the Eros person, he pulled me out of my sexual comfort zone into the depths of true pleasure and intimacy. Our relationship was highly sexual, and we learned a lot from one another in this department. Him and I were drawn together like magnets. I always felt the sex was getting better and better, even after four years! I still don’t think we fully discovered one another sexually, even after all that time. I always felt there was so much more to experience with him, and he felt the same way (possibly even more me!).

Eros-South Node: This is a highly significant aspect. The two of you were likely lovers in a past life. The sex between the two of you is highly erotic, but at the same time comfortable and familiar. While the potential for growth is repressed with this aspect, it is nevertheless a very satisfying and magnetic connection.

What About Asteroid Psyche? Psyche is a connotation for the soul; astrologers exhibit some disagreement in the meaning of Psyche in the natal chart, and how its position should be interpreted. Much has been made of the story about Psyche and Cupid, with associated connotations about finding the “soul mate.” But so often in real life, the soul mate is not the one who sweeps us off our feet, carrying us to eternal co-habitation in mutual bliss; rather they turn out to be the one who teaches the difficult lessons in life, delivering some pain along the way. Under the ides of Psyche one may be brought into confrontation with their own karmic issues regarding relationship, the conditions placed on love and one’s own unique expression of love.

Martha Lang-Wescott suggests that Psyche’s position “represents a point of damage…a psychological wound or trauma from which one does not really recover.” A transit to Psyche can trigger a re-enactment of the pain or an old situation that got the best of one. The intrinsic concept of Psyche is “being purified by suffering.” Wescott also notes that a natal Psyche retrograde can indicate someone who projects their problems onto others, live in denial through suppression of certain feelings and truths and/or being willfully blind to the damage they can inflict on others.

Demetra George has a much more positive take on Psyche, suggesting that the asteroid represents “the principle of being psychically attuned and bonded to another human being.” Here Psyche is supposed to be a higher octave of Venus, love and psychic attunement to another at its most refined state. George maintains that softer aspects made with other planets and points can facilitate empathetic connection to others, while harder aspects indicate a lack of sensitivity. She suggests that Psyche power can express as mental telepathy, empathy, the ability to channel and direct energy fields or the ability to create material product; depending on the elemental designation of the sign the asteroid occupies.

Perhaps Psyche can be regarded as a facilitator for the power of love-and other archetypal instinctual forces- as channeled or not, on the physical plane. Therefore, for the purposes of this discussion, the asteroid is not included specifically as a love indicator. But its position and the aspects it makes should be considered in an examination of a natal chart, since it represents a most powerful pivot for better or worse, in the conduct of human affairs as pertains to the pursuit of love and being loved. Star tennis player Venus Williams has asteroid Psyche at 16°Taurus in conjunction to asteroid Chiron at the same degree, both in the eighth house of sex, death, control and power issues; these are in trine to her Mars at 17° Virgo 56′ in the twelfth house of mastery. Her formidable athletic ability could be said to have its roots in deep and mysterious places of the soul, nurtured by a conduit into primal collective energy.

Below are a few observations made by the writer, on the love asteroids in hard aspect with each other and in association with major chart points and planets. Note that the magnetically attracting aspect of conjunction doesn’t necessarily translate into a “nicer” person or one who has an easier time with love relationships. For example, sociopath Charles Manson has a conjunction of Eros exact on his Jupiter in Scorpio, located in his seventh house of partners and right on the Descendant; this placement serves as a symbol for distorted projection of the sex drive, rather than as an overwhelming desire to sexually please the partner.

Square or opposition between Eros and Amor: Sex is considered as separate from love. One may keep a mistress for great sex and a wife for serving the ideal of “pure” love in a committed relationship. Or this could be someone who loves being social, however keeps the love object at home. A softer contact between these two asteroids could symbolize a tantric union between erotic desire and platonic concepts of love and friendship.

Square or opposition between Eros and Cupido: This aspect can indicate excitement and erotic stimulation generated by playing the seductive love games you enjoy, in the company of someone who physically turns you on and who can play games too. In a square the exercise may degenerate into competition; in an opposition that which initially attracts you may be the very traits in another you seek to bring into line later.

Square or opposition between Cupido and Amor: Can indicates one who plays seductive love games in order to feel sexy or desirable, but who reserves their highest form of love for someone or something else in another setting altogether. Or the preliminary games of love constitute a test to see how much and in what manner the other is prepared to give.

Square or Opposition between Psyche and a Love Asteroid: Introduces a wounding element into the mix, wherein the individual may initially attempt to split off emotional and love needs from the necessary challenges and disillusioning experiences that must come with earthly life. Conversely, there may be a pattern of struggle and frustration around trying to get various love objects to cooperate with the individual’s expectations of sacred union, perfect romance, endless attraction, utopia of twin-soul compatibility, etc.

Any of the Love Asteroids in Strong Aspect to the Moon’s Nodes, Midheaven or Ascendant: Indicates that personal concepts of love are influenced by collective myths, taboos or longings; or can indicate a love affair with the public at large or the production of a product that arouses a sense of passion in the public. For example, Pyotr Tchaikovsky was a 19th century composer who produced music that is still widely played today; his Eros is in conjunction with the North Node at 2° Pisces; while his Amor at 5° Taurus is in sextile or trine with the Moon’s Nodes at about 3° Virgo-Pisces, Chiron at 6° Cancer and the Ascendant-Descendant angles of the birth chart at 9° Cancer.

A Love Asteroid Unaspected or Weakly Aspected in a Natal Chart: Can actually represent a sizeable problem for the native, in that the energy represented by the placement then tends to express in an unconscious and unrestrained manner. This state of being matters because the expression of love and attainment of it in interaction with others constitutes a vital aspect of human existence. In this circumstance, aspects made with another person’s planets or points can trigger all sorts of surprising phenomenon good or bad, until the individual comes to a conscious realization of the psychological dynamics insinuated by the natal sign and house placement of the asteroid.

Love Asteroids in Aspect to Planets:

Sun: The Sun represents essential identity, the true center of one’s reason for being. Sun located close to a love asteroid would take the native’s love act nation-wide; a love asteroid in hard aspect to the Sun could have the effect of blocking either one’s own ability to love others or conversely can direct libido energy onto other external targets. Issues around parity in giving and receiving would concern aspects made to either Sun or Moon. Witness asteroid Eros in conjunction to the Sun, both in square to Venus; in a client’s chart this indicated conscious suppression of her own formidable female sexual nature by becoming overweight instead.

Moon: The Moon represents security needs and the nurturing function; but in aspect to love asteroids the expression of this principle can go in weird directions. For example, a Moon in Aquarius person would likely require a certain amount of novelty, detachment and independence; they can therefore be drawn to the eccentric, unearthly, unavailable or fascist personality, depending on personal preference. It’s another issue entirely, as to whether such traits in a potential loved one are actually healthy for a long-term or intimate relationship. Parental murderer Eric Menendez has Cupido and Amor in Pisces closely trine natal Moon in Scorpio and Neptune in Sagittarius; the two planets are straddling the foundation of the chart, pointing to unconscious mother, nurturing and security issues.

Mercury: With Mercury involved, communication is employed as a seductive turn-on. In return, the object of desire should be able to equally entertain the other with witty repartee, new information, interesting gossip, intellectual dialogue, etc. Talk show host Merv Griffin had Amor in Taurus and the eleventh house of community affairs, tightly in square to Mercury in Leo located in his second house of income. If natal Mercury is in a water sign and in aspect to a love asteroid, one could be skilled at making amorous contact with another via natural bioelectric resonance, psychic ability or astral visions.

Venus: A love asteroid teamed with the Goddess of Love should be a slam-dunk, but actually the combination can often translate into excessive behavior around matters of romance. A narcissist with Venus contacts can present as an object of desire or one who can command desire in others; alternatively there can be a lack of discrimination and a disregard for boundaries, one’s own or other peoples’. This is an over-the-top “charisma ray” that can easily be re-directed towards pleasurable overindulgence of all kinds, from food to drugs to sex. As a candidate for a sex object that conquered the masses, Marilyn Monroe had Eros in Capricorn trine Venus in Aries. Functioning at a darker level of interaction, serial murderer Ted Bundy had Cupido in Capricorn sextile Venus in Scorpio; he had no difficulty seducing his female victims into “taking a ride.”

Mars: There is no denying that Mars up close to a love asteroid can endow the native with incredible sex appeal. Actor Antonio Banderas has Eros almost exactly conjunct Mars in Gemini, in square to Pluto and Venus in Virgo, sigh; while sex kitten Bridgett Bardot has Cupido conjunct her Mars in Leo. The Martian drive in hard aspect to love asteroids can show up strongly in the charts of prominent athletes and those who traffic in violence. For example, martial artist and film star Jean-Claude Van Damme has Cupido at 15 ° Aries 27′ retrograde in his sixth house of work, in square to Mars in Cancer elevated in the ninth house of higher mind.

Film director Oliver Stone, famous for presenting violence as cinematic art has Eros at 21 ° Cancer 17′ and the ninth house of philosophy in tight square to a Mars-Chiron conjunction in social sign Libra and the twelfth house of appeal to the masses. We must also include O.J. Simpson, as both a superior athlete and possible performer in a heinous crime of passion. He has asteroids Amor and Cupido in conjunction on either side of his natal Mars at 6° Gemini, these also stand in opposition to asteroid Eros at 3° Sagittarius retrograde.

Jupiter: Jupiter traffics in belief systems; indicating attraction to someone or something which aligns or not, with one’s own standards for approved social behavior, or conversely will judge or be judged for beliefs or mannerisms, with holding or granting approval accordingly. The native might also be drawn to those who will encourage them to go over the top in romantic and sensual indulgence, travel, sports, or religious proclivities. Evangelist Billy Graham had asteroid Amor in social sign Libra and his seventh house of partners, in square to Jupiter (organized religious beliefs) in Cancer and his fourth house of root psyche and home base appeal.

Saturn: In the positive sense Saturn with love asteroids can bestow security, stability, and a consistent environment within which to gain trust and to make strides in acquiring wisdom or producing a creative product. Negatively, it can express as power struggles for control, frustration, with holding, withdrawal, sex as a weapon and the inhibition of creative or independent activities in others. Media magnate Rupurt Murdoch has fifth house asteroid Amor (entertainment and speculation) in Aries square his first house Saturn in Capricorn. His life has been marked by a series of ruthless business skirmishes involving both competitors and his sons.

Neptune: Neptune’s involvement can indicate an intimate association with one’s own creative muse, or a liaison with someone who is an addict, misfit or ill in some way. Or we may be moved to project artistic or other bohemian tendencies we do not wish to personally own onto the beloved. Neptune can also bring visions of the loved one as not being of this earth or attuned to higher vibrations. In hard aspects one may habitually employ the rose-colored glasses to their detriment, in determining the suitability of others. Flamboyant entertainer Liberace had asteroid Eros in Aquarius and his second house of income, in opposition to an eighth house (occult contacts, other people’s money) Neptune in Leo. The aspect makes a statement both about his creative muse and the ability to use his talents to generate a fortune over a lifetime.

Uranus: In the New Age sense contact with Uranus would indicate a requirement for surprises, enjoyment of unpredictability, futuristic orientation, even alternative preferences in sexuality. In the reactionary sense one could be excited by control freaks, rules, restrictions and a strong authoritative style. Both types of Uranus contact tend to get off on crisis, drama and disruption until maturity brings about certain realizations. Rock singer Jim Morrison had asteroids Amor and Cupido in Pisces and the first house of basic persona, in square to a Uranus-Mars conjunction (lightening-bolt drive and inspiration) in Gemini in the fourth house of root psyche, besides having asteroid Eros conjunct his Sun (center of identity) in the tenth house of career and public life.

Pluto: Here the contact must result in a transformative experience; close relationships that will consume and reconstruct the native are favored. Attraction must give way to deep emotional catharsis, penetration of the soul, perhaps a visit to the burning ground; nothing else will do. At a slightly less intensive level one might prefer to express their love through chronic power struggles involving sex, money, authority or some other symbol of Leviathan. Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis had asteroid Cupido in life-and-death Scorpio in conjunction to her natal Ascendant of persona and both in trine to Pluto in Cancer located in the eighth house of sex, death and other people’s money. These eighth-house issues played out in her life with both husbands Robert Kennedy Jr. and Aristotle Onassis, as classic tragedies presented on a global stage.