Synastry of bad sex

Sure, Astrology can give us indications of great sex in synastry, but can it indicate bad sex, too? Here are some aspects which may indicate sexual incompatibility. Note: These aspects, on their own, do not necessarily indicate “bad sex”. Supportive aspects can negate these influences.

Mars square/opposite Mars:

In astrology, Mars represents our sexual style. When your Mars squares another person’s Mars, it indicates that your sexual styles are at odds. You express your sexuality in different ways, which can indicate sexual incompatibility. Squares cause friction, so it may be difficult to reconcile these sexual differences. Your body rhythms may not match well, which can result in disappointment for both of you. For example, Mars in Taurus natives enjoy natural, physical sexual expressions. They are not fond of spontaneity or variety when it comes to love-making. If a Mars in Taurus person partnered up with a Mars in Aquarius person, this may spell trouble. Mars in Aquarius intellectualizes sex, which may confuse the Mars in Taurus person. Mars in Aquarius seeks plenty of variety in sex, and tends to enjoy the “idea” of sex more than the act itself. This would obviously be a problem for sensual Mars in Taurus, who needs plenty of physical contact to be satisfied.  The opposition is not as problematic as the square, but the sexual differences remain.

Mars square Saturn:

Saturn is the planet of restriction and discipline, while Mars is the planet of sex and aggression. When these two planets collide in synastry, sexual problems may plague the couple. Saturn may block, hamper, or limit Mars’ sexuality. Saturn may feel disappointed with Mars’ performance in bed, generating anger and hostility between the couple. This can result in the decline of Mars’ self-confidence when it comes to sexual matters.

Mars square Uranus:

Hard aspects from Uranus to another person’s planets in synastry often indicate an on-off energy in regards to the planet involved. This aspect doesn’t necessarily indicate “bad” sex, but can indicate sudden shifts in sexual interest on the part of the Uranus person. At first, the sex is likely to be electric and fulfilling, but over time, the Uranus person may tire of the sex and seek excitement somewhere else.


Lets talk about what repulses us in a person. I have to start with Moons, as they are one’s deepest heart. I do not think Moon square Moon can sustain a long term relationship. If it does, it is lacking. It is sad. It is missing a piece.

Moon oppose Moon is fine in a platonic relationship. In fact, I think it is excellent in a platonic relationship because each person brings an opposite perspective. This is wonderful with friends. However, if one takes this to lovers, there will be an essential piece missing, in my opinion. When one partner cries, the other will not know how to comfort him. There is a lack of simpatico due to the opposite Moons.

One may give an opposite  perspective but one will not give true heart. The true heart resonates on a different spectrum. Hence, there is angst. Hence, there is sadness and loneliness.  I don’t think a wonderful relationship can exist with Moon square or Moon oppose Moon. Can a relationship endure? Of course. Will it fill your heart. To me, the answer is NO.

Sexuality is from the head up, not the neck  down. Attraction may be fleeting but if there is no soul, it soon  becomes empty. It becomes vapid. It becomes sad. Hence, if one has an attraction and nothing else, one will be left with a sense of angst as if one has eaten a big meal but found it to be  cardboard. Any relationship is based on soul. Without soul, there is no music. There is no beat. There is no anything but the sacharrine music that plays on elevators.

Let’s leave Moons, for the moment. However, one can never truly leave Moons because without Moon connections, there is not much of anything but we need to move on. The worst aspects for sexuality would be the worst aspects for simpatico. These would include one of the partnersshutting down the life passion/energy  of the other. This can be done in a number of ways. People can tear down the core of another. People can step on the love of another. People can diminish the shine of another. I will talk about all of these and how they erode relationships.

If one person’s Saturn squares another person’s Moon, the Saturn person may throw cold water on the sensitive feelings of the Moon person. We, all have sensitive feelings.  Even the toughest person hurts. Even the toughest person wants to be loved. Hence, when a Saturn is square a Moon, the Moon person feels as if he cannot measure up.  If you can imagine a father who chastises you when you get an A minus and not an A, that is how this aspect feels, in my opinion.

If a Saturn squares a Venus, one may feel as if one is not attractive enough. One may feel as if one is not pretty enough for the partner. The Saturn may transmit this message to the Venus person, without words, perhaps, but it will be transmitted. The Venus person may feel like she has to be perfect in order to be loved by the Saturn person. This hurts a great deal. I have been here, so can talk from personal experience. I am sure many of you have, too. Our topic is the worst aspects for sexuality. I think one can imagine that the above two aspects would put a terrible damper on passion. Hence, the worst aspects for sexuality are, always, the worst aspects. for simpatico.

I would be remiss if I did not talk about a nuclear sexuality. This would be Nessu/Deja. If one wants to hang from the light fixtures, one will do so with Nessus/Deja. One may go emotional and sexual  places one never thought one could. One may  touch feelings one never thought one could. However, will it last? My answer would be No. Is it worth it? My answer would be maybe.

I think Nessus/Deja relationships deepen you, as well as humble you. The most judgemental person  is the  one who has not been humbled. I have seen Nessus/Deja relationships take a proud person and put her in the dust. Hence, she does not judge the next person who comes along

Mars figures into sexuality. Mars is drive. For some Mars signs, another Mars sign will not work well. A Cancer Mars like me does not work with another Cancer Mars. Who would chase the other around the couch 😀  A Scorpio Mars is perfect for a Cancer Mars because he has get up and go. Also, a water sign would understand the workings of another water sign. Mars has to work well in the synastry for there to be attraction.

If there is a Mars square Mars or  a Mars oppose Mars, it may be too strident. If a Mars works well with a Sun, there can be a nice balance. For a Gemini Sun, an Aquarius Mars works well. Hence, we have an Air sun trine an Air Mars. There are many possible good placements for the Mars in synastry. In my real world examples( and the charts I have done), people seem to be attracted to the same Mars signs over and over.