06. How do the signs flirt? What is their style according to Venus?
Your Venus Sign is the Sign where the planet Venus is located in your birth chart. If your Sun Sign or Rising Sign is Aries or Leo or Sagittarius, you may also have the following style to some extent; but whatever your Sun Sign may be, when you have Venus in one of these Fire Signs, your way of flirting is even more likely to be as described below. If your Sun or Moon is in an Earth or Water Sign, it may “dampen the fire” somewhat; but the Fire Sign style will still shine through in some way.
If you have Venus in Aries or Leo or Sagittarius in your birth chart, when you go into “flirt mode” you tend to “act to attract” in one or more of the following ways:
Spontaneous. You act on impulse; are full of surprises; and are not boring. You may need to remind yourself of the proverb: “Fools rush in where angels fear to tread.”
Spirited. You act lively, playful, plucky, vital, fiery, feisty, or cocky. You love a challenge and play the game with gusto.
Passionate. You act very enthusiastic and are very expressive about your feelings. Subtle is not your style.
Courageous. You act bold and spunky, take chances, and will risk rejection. There’s always more fish in the sea.
Venus in Aries
If you have Venus in Aries in your birth chart, when you go into “flirt mode” you tend to “act to attract” in some of the following ways:
Impetuous. You are easily infatuated, then may lose interest if you get bored. If someone sparks your interest, your “rapid response” can get you involved too quickly when caution could be the better approach.
Direct and bold. You make your interest or intentions known, and are rarely subtle or shy about it. You can risk rejection, and recover from a rebuff. You’ll flirt fearlessly and make overtures overtly.
Challenging. You present a challenge, acting coy or cocky or “hard-to-get”. And you like a challenging conquest too. You may engage in sports or a game of chance to attract the attention of one you desire.
Competitive. You love to be chased, to elude, then let yourself be caught. Flirting is a game, and you play to win.
Ardent. You seem passionate, and love to be “swept away” with desire. You can be enthusiastic and energetic, and seem “full of fire” to one you desire.
Independent. You seem self-reliant, and you appreciate self-assurance in those you choose to flirt with. A wimp wouldn’t win your warmth and affection.
Another trait of Venus in Aries involves your head (since the head is associated with the Sign of Aries). Your way of showing affection may sometimes be to push your head into someone or rub your face or hair against them – similar to the way a dog will push at you with his nose.
If the planet Venus is in Aries then your number one need for romance is passion! In sexual matters you’re likely to be direct and bold. You’re a flirt and can easily attract others to you even though you prefer to be the one who initiates a relationship. The thrill of the chase is a big turn on in love. In fact, to prevent boredom you must always feel pursued by your lover. Venus in Aries needs plenty of attention and stimulation. Since this is a sign known for assertiveness and independence, in matters of romance and sex, Venus in Aries takes the lead.
Venus in Aries is the most impulsive of all the Venus signs! Sexual or romantic relationships are begun in the blink of an eye – but they can be finished just as quickly too.
Aries is a sign embodying naiveté, and idealism. This is the approach of the person with Venus in Aries. They are blunt, demand attention and want it without frills. Romancing someone to get sex is not exactly their cup of tea. It also means they can fail to see that someone wants to use them for their own means. They may think they are getting a relationship when they are getting a person who wants only a one night stand. With its impatient and independent nature, Venus in Aries can overlook the warning signs and leap into something that may last a night, two weeks or maybe a few months before fizzling out. Meanwhile the Venus in Aries person will have given their heart, their love, their all. It can be fun to be with a person with Venus in Aries if you are able to be very independent and take things as they come without an expectation from the start of having along-term or permanent relationship.
By the same measure, if you are seeking something purely physical and you both agree to those terms, such as the modern-day “friend with benefits” type of relationship, a person with Venus in Aries can be a perfect partner. Remember Libra is Aries polar sign and if this person chooses to let that charming and diplomatic energy surface, this could be a very good thing! If you have an intellectual rapport, it could potentially be a very satisfying “agreement” or relationship as it were: good conversation, perhaps a nice meal or relaxing cup of tea/coffee and some fiery sexual consummation.
Venus in Aries: believes love should happen at first sight; likes independent, go-getters; enjoys chasing and being chased; attracts love by inspiring/encouraging suitors to pursue and “win” her; flirts by teasing and picking fights; expects to be #1 in the relationship (and in her partner’s life) or will lose interest quickly; arguing and friendly competition is an aphrodisiac
Venus in Leo
If you have Venus in Leo in your birth chart, when you go into “flirt mode” you tend to “act to attract” in some of the following ways:
Dramatic. You seem somewhat flamboyant; act with flair; and you make grand gestures. (Maybe “melodramatic” is a better word.) When interested in someone, you may find yourself unconsciously tossing or teasing your hair, which can be a real attention-getter.
Romantic. You send flowers or candy or champagne or roving musicians, or quote poetry. Cyrano de Bergerac had a big nose but, like Roxanne, you like his style. You love to stage sweet surprises for the object of your affection.
Regal. You have an aristocratic air and a noble bearing; and sometimes seem “glorious”. You may act haughty or hard-to-please. You expect to be respected, and will act worthy of respect with one you desire.
Generous. You give gifts and freely dispense favours and treats. You may act magnanimous or benevolent with those you favor. A single rose is not your style – three dozen does it better.
Warm. You act affectionate and friendly; and make your admirer feel worthy of your attention. Touching and stroking is a tell-tale which indicates interest from Leo the Lion. (Licking and pawing should be stifled until you are sure it will be appreciated.)
Entertaining. You show some kind of talent or artistic flair; and seek attention, applause, and appreciation for your performance. You act like an actor (or a “ham”).
If the planet Venus is in the sign Leo in your horoscope then love is a grand, romantic adventure! In fact, you’re an incurable romantic and with Venus in Leo you’re likely to be in love with love. You need loads of attention and open displays of affection and anyone lucky enough to romance you will be doused with warm, generous gifts. Venus in Leo expects to be treated like royalty in love and sex, but you also know how to treat your romantic partner like the King or Queen of your castle in return. Venus in Leo has a tender ego and strong pride in love so you do need loads of validation and attention but you’re free with compliments and have such a strong need to experience true love that once you find it, your loyalty knows no bounds.
Leos love being loved. They inspire great passion and loyalty. Their friends are usually friends for life for they know their Leo IS the Queen or King. They are fiery, dramatic and full of new, exciting ideas in the bedroom. Just do NOT must her hair during lovemaking…nor in any way make her look or feel ridiculous about your passionate encounter. Her pride will be wounded and she will leave you quickly and as cold as ice, with her head held high as she walks out the door. If you are in public and heart or make fun of her she may put you through a dramatic vignette you will never, ever forget.
Venus in Leo uses drama, creativity, flair, and grand gestures to attract love – just as it is attracted to those who use those techniques. Because this is the sign of The Queen or The King, there must be a virtually royal effort put into courtship. Lack of money just won’t do. Somehow, someway, the resources will be found to provide grand and memorable romantic times.
The Venus in Leo person is seeking to create and be in relationships that provide spontaneity, joy and mutual admiration. This is both healing and loving in their eyes and goes a long way to creating a den they will never want to leave.
Venus in Leo: believes love should ALWAYS consist of romance, drama, fun, and loyalty; likes people who stand out in socially acceptable ways (e.g., extremely attractive, owns/wears impressive things, speaks dramatically, has unique creative talents, etc.); attracts love by playing up strengths and downplaying weaknesses, and inspiring chivalry; flirts by complimenting; wants consistent (inconsistent doesn’t count!), emotionally-moving displays of appreciation and gratitude in relationships; receiving awe-inspiring gifts and positive, focused attention from an audience (e.g., mirrors, cameras, other people in the room) are aphrodisiacs (Btw, it’s no coincidence that this Venus description is the longest of them all. *wink*)
Venus in Saggitarius
If you have Venus in Sagittarius in your birth chart, when you go into “flirt mode” you tend to “act to attract” in some of the following ways:
Expansive. You show an appetite for variety, new ideas, and new experiences. “Excessive” might be a better word, for you can over-do things a bit – or a lot. You may find yourself “embellishing” or exaggerating to inspire more interest in you. You may be thinking a little “hype” would help.
Adventurous. You seem willing to explore new experiences and new places. Foreign countries, foreign food, flying, or horseback riding may suddenly seem so interesting. A motorcycle ride may seem so appropos.
Care-free. You appear to be free of restrictions; and will give a partner “space” and freedom. In flirt mode you may act more like a “free spirit” than usual, or seem more optimistic and enthusiastic. (You might also act a little “clutzy” or clumsy.)
Companionable. You want to pal around with your flirting partner, to be “friends first”. Your naturally friendly style may be mistaken for serious interest and attract unwanted wanna-be’s.
Philosophical or humorous. You play the part of philosopher or clown. You may laugh a lot, or make someone laugh. (If you find yourself making bad jokes, you are probably in flirt mode.)
Spiritual. You seek to share your spiritual path or be a guide. Or you act as a “seeker” or student to one who can teach or inspire you.
If Venus is in the sign Sagittarius then you love with an adventurous spirit and searching mind. You need freedom in love, that’s for certain. Any forced commitment or overbearing lover is likely to send you running for the hills. But at the same time, if a romantic partner can engage your higher mind and click with your ideals and beliefs then you might never get that itch to escape. Then you know you’ve found a soul mate. Venus in Sagittarius attracts others easily through a fun loving personality and infectious sense of optimism and idealism. Venus in Sagittarius will need a sense of humor in love and may tire easily if romance or sex becomes too predictable.
Adventurous, impulsive and independent Sagittarius loves getting to know new people, and starting new ventures, such as relationships. They may not last, but they can be fun initially in the eyes of The Centaur. Love takes on a fiery, spontaneous tone! You may never know where and when they are taking you for date – but it will be fun!
They play the field but can be loyal once they find the right person. This is the sign that is willing to do spontaneous activities or spend hours fiercely debating a subject and think of it as a great date.
The person with Venus in Sagittarius is seeking to form relationships that are based on the basic pure pagan delight (think Pan) and faith of love. They want a relationship to open their world and broaden their perspectives. In past lives they have experience sexual oppression and restraint, stagnancy and boring routine.
If you can inject joy, spontaneity, individuality and sexual freedom into your relationship the person with Venus in Sagittarius will be greatly attracted.
Venus in Sagittarius: believes love should bring happiness, great times, and good luck; likes outgoing, intelligent, independent, adventurous people; attracts love by being friendly, fun-loving, generous, and free-spirited; flirts through friendly conversation and making someone laugh; wants freedom, honesty, few expectations, and undefined commitment in a relationship; visiting exotic places, meeting foreign people, exploring foreign cultures, and different accents are aphrodisiacs
Earthsigns: Taurus, Virgo, Capricornus
Your Venus Sign is the Sign where the planet Venus is located in your birth chart. If your Sun Sign or Rising Sign is Taurus or Virgo or Capricorn, you may also have the following style to some extent; but whatever your Sun Sign may be, when you have Venus in one of these Earth Signs, your way of flirting is even more likely to be as described below. If your Sun or Moon is in a Fire or Air Sign, it may “turn up the heat” somewhat; but the cautious Earth Sign style will still show up in some way.
If you have Venus in Taurus or Virgo or Capricorn in your birth chart, when you go into “flirt mode” you tend to “act to attract” in one or more of the following ways:
Earthy. You appear natural, nature-loving, grounded, solid, steady, and stable. You seem “comfortable” or “a calming influence”.
Practical. You seem down-to-earth, reliable, realistic, or pragmatic. You act like you have “common sense”. You might offer material security as an attraction, or be attracted to one who can provide it. You may talk more about what you own than what you feel.
Patient. You don’t act impulsive, impetuous, or impatient. You will wait a long time, if that seems the best tactic. You don’t push, but you persevere; and you believe “persistence pays”. You won’t abandon ship until it is surely sinking.
Sensual. You appear sensuous, tactile, and very aware of physical sensations. A touch means more than words to you. Sharing food may be a form of flirtation.
Venus in Taurus
If you have Venus in Taurus in your birth chart, when you go into “flirt mode” you tend to “act to attract” in some of the following ways:
“The good provider.” You show you can offer both material things and sensual comforts. You may try to modestly show off your possessions or purchasing power.
Easygoing. You seem “easy to be with”, calm, comfortable, and soothing; and you like to share “quiet times” and everyday activities such as shopping and cooking and dining.
Touchable. You look cuddly and huggable; and are physically responsive. You seem “safe” and “approachable” and send out “good vibes”. You show affection through physical contact. You can be a “huggy bear”.
Hedonistic. You love all sensual pleasures, such as food, drink, art, music, perfumes, fondling, or sex; and you show it and want to share it.
Nature-loving. You appreciate nature, plants, animals,rocks, sand, sunsets, woods, fields, streams, lakes, and oceans; and like to share nature walks, camping, campfire gatherings, gardening, being with animals, outdoor cooking, or just sitting outdoors.
Honest. You seem sincere, truthful, forthright, uncomplicated, and dependable; and show you can be relied on. You are also very loyal to those you care for.
If the planet Venus is in the sign Taurus then your greatest need in love is security. Physical security by knowing your partner is sexually loyal will be crucial. Venus in Taurus is a possessive sign in love and since you give yourself completely to someone you love, you expect nothing less in return. In your heart, love equals ownership. Taurus loves everything that is stimulating to the senses so you are the typical Venus sign that enjoys being wined and dined in the most romantic settings. Plenty of hugs, cuddling and physical affection are given freely by this sign but are also needed for Venus in Taurus to feel loved in return.
Venus rules Taurus and so a person with Venus in this sign feels very comfortable with relationships and all that accompanies. They love the flesh (Rubenesque women and stocky men), sex, luxurious and expensive clothing, good wine, gourmet food, soft pillows and silk sheets. They enjoy the pleasures of love. They immerse themselves in the enjoyment of it all.
The flipside to this is that you can end up in great debt, thus you will need to exercise excellent money management in order to afford your love style!
Venus in Taurus loves to touch and be touched. Partnership is of vital importance to you. You may want to “possess” you partner and must remember that you cannot own other human beings, even if they are your boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband. Your sex drive is very earthy and very high, thus you love all the sights, sounds, tastes and smells of sex.
Women with Venus in Taurus tend to hold traditional conservative views of relationships and want a good ROI – return on investment. I do this for you, so you do this for me. They won’t bother with a relationship that appears from the start to not be leading to a secure marriage. They also tend not to marry a man who is unable to support them well financially. The men with Venus in Taurus generally prefer voluptuous woman with real breasts, stomach and buttocks Rather than those supplied by plastic surgery or implants). They also want someone who wants to follow their slow and steady lead.
Venus in Taurus: believes love should come after a lot of long-term consideration; likes (and is impressed by) wealthy people; attracts love by being emotionally stable and having consistent habits; flirts by providing physical comfort; wants to feel secure in relationships and “know where this is going”; rich, comfort foods, receiving massages, listening to music, and fragrances that smell like something edible (mmm vanilla!) are aphrodisiacs
Venus in Virgo
If you have Venus in Virgo in your birth chart, when you go into “flirt mode” you tend to “act to attract” in some of the following ways:
Pure. You seem “proper” and polite and conservative and clean, even “virginal”. You may come across as “reserved” – as holding back your emotions, and also as keeping your affections “reserved” for the proper partner.
Attentive to details. You note one’s preferences and cater to their needs and desires. You “notice” little things about the one you desire, and may mention them. You may try to help “organize” or help out the one who attracts you, and this is a way of “flirting” for you. When you give a little gift, you try to make it appropriate to what you think the person needs, or is interested in, or would be “useful” to them.
Clever. You seem witty, logical, analytical, and perceptive. You act as a good listener, and engage in intelligent conversation.
Discriminating. You show taste, class, and good manners. You see what needs “fixing” in one you desire, and may unconsciously brush lint from their clothing or fix their tie or hair or “fuss” over them. If not careful, you’re too critical of one you care for (but it’s a sign you are interested).
Adaptable. You seem willing to compromise or change in order to improve a relationship, or to attract the one you desire.
Indispensable. You become so helpful and useful to the one you desire, that they end up depending on you. (Like the private secretary who eventually seduces her boss.)
If the planet Venus is in the sign Virgo then your overwhelming need in love is to have the object of your potential affection pass some very discriminating tests before you’re truly willing to step into romance. Yes, Venus in Virgo is famous for that “checklist”. It could intimidate potential lovers but that’s not really a threat since they’ll never even know you’re analyzing them to decide whether or not love is possible in the first place. Venus in Virgo does all this quietly and without fanfare. Your greatest need in love besides perfection is simply to be needed. You most easily express love by being of service to your lover and taking care of all those details in life. When you criticize or nag, it’s only because you care so deeply and expect such pure love.
The person with Venus in Virgo can be challenging! They can either seem like they do not want anything to do with love, or be very focused on constant self-improvement in the relationship. Translation: too critical of not only themselves, but their partner.
Virgo is a sign that seeks the best in all things – which gets labeled as perfection. Their demands of themselves, other people and situations can seem or can be impossible to meet. They express love and affection for the people and things they value in an introverted manner. As introverted as it may be, Virgo wants to be in charge and will nitpick if things are not like they want in a relationship. Demanding the best of themselves, they also think it is appropriate to demand it of their partner. Often they simply are not sure WHY their partner loves them or wants them. They can make loving them a very cold experience.
When the Venus in Virgo person wants you to draw close, they will turn on their own special brand of charm that says life would be greatly improved if the two of you were a couple. They may be witty, articulate, creative, clean/fastidious and attentive to your needs.
But the shadow side of Venus in Virgo comes from the karmic fear of being stuck in a dead-end, intellectually oppressive, stunted relationship. Their past lives involved being trapped in a hopeless marriage that killed their spirit. Things were stagnant, conversations were non-existent, and growth was impossible. In this lifetime they fear getting married and sitting in front of the television set every night after dinner for decades. They would rather stay single. It may take a long time to get this person to the altar, if you can manage it at all!
Venus in Virgo: believes love should involve making a commitment to take care of someone else; likes hard-workers who pay attention to details (conversely, is also attracted to flawed, disorganized partners that need fixing); attracts love by handling all of the “dirty work” in a partner’s life; flirts by making analytical observations, self-deprecating humor, or offering self-improvement advice; wants to feel needed and useful in relationships; good hygiene, a neat appearance, and an orderly environment are aphrodisiacs
Venus in Capricornus
If you have Venus in Capricorn in your birth chart, when you go into “flirt mode” you tend to “act to attract” in some of the following ways:
Reputable. You try to impress the one you desire with your reputation, position, job title, career, social standing, or wealth. You appear “respectable” yourself, and act “respectful” of the one you desire.
Responsible. You attract the one you desire by being reliable, solid, and supportive. You may offer to take over some of their “responsibilities” for them so that they come to depend on your support.
Mature. You appear self-disciplined, competent, and “in control”. You may act like a “parent figure” to a less mature person – or appear to appreciate the “maturity” of one you desire.
Material. You show you can offer attractive practical or material benefits – such as financial support and security, a good home, and the finer things in life.
Committed. You seem very willing to make commitments, such as to a friendship or long-term relationship; or seem to be “marriage-minded”. You act like one who “plays for keeps” and will be forever faithful.
Reserved. You appear aloof and intriguingly inscrutable; or look like “a loner”. You may attract one who is afraid of emotions; or a more “feeling” person who wants to break through the emotional barrier you have erected.
If Venus is in the sign Capricorn then your love nature is more serious and reserved than other signs. Your most predominant need in love is that it endures and is based on fulfilling your practical needs. Love is given a heavy dose of realism with Venus in Capricorn. There’s no romance if you can’t pay the bills. Sex can be a serious deal for you as well and you’re able to exhibit a great deal of control over your libido. This sign can’t love someone who has no goals or ambitions but is instantly attracted to someone responsibly climbing that ladder of success. With your Venus in Capricorn you’ll show love through proving how able you are of taking care of the business in life and helping your love do just that.
Some like love with lots of flash, drama and pizzazz! But if what your truly desire is a steady, committed relationship that leaves no doubt about where you stand, you want a person with Venus in Capricorn. Why? Because this is a person who is ready for a mature, stable, committed relationship and will not settle for anything less. Capricorn likes to take charge (it is a cardinal sign), so such a person is not afraid to seek a committed relationship. One night stands and flimsy emotional games are not what attracts this person.
Capricorn the Sea Goat is a sign that values commitment, stability, age and sagaciousness – the wisdom that comes with age. Thus, a Capricorn will not rush into a commitment but once a commitment is made they will take a long time thinking things through and trying to wait out the bad times before ending the connection.
In past lives the person with Venus in Capricorn was paired with immature people, possibly abandoned, the victim of emotional games, and suffered failed relationships. This lifetime is therefore about making much different choices.
They would rather let a potential relationship pass them by than make a choice that will be temporary and unfulfilling. Venus in Capricorn folks can appear to be very commanding and are the people that others seek for wise answers: mature wise elders, authoritarian, self-contained, and very focused. They seek these attributes in a love partner.
Venus in Capricorn: believes love should make people keep their word; likes responsible, successful people who can help with achieving aspirations; attracts love by being dependable and loyal; shows affection by honoring commitments and not leaving the relationship; flirts by getting straight to the point, assessing a potential mate’s value, and showing off their dry wit as they feel more comfortable; wants a solid commitment from the right person in relationships; knowing what’s coming next is an aphrodisiac
Airsigns: Gemini, Libra, Aquarius
Your Venus Sign is the Sign where the planet Venus is located in your birth chart. If your Sun Sign or Rising Sign is Gemini, Libra or Aquarius, you may also have the following style to some extent; but whatever your Sun Sign may be, when you have Venus in one of the Air Signs, your way of flirting is even more likely to be as described below. If your Sun or Moon is in an Earth or Water Sign, it may “dampen” things somewhat; but the “airy” style of Venus in an Air Sign will still show in some way.
If you have Venus in Gemini or Libra or Aquarius in your birth chart, when you go into “flirt mode” you tend to “act to attract” in one or more of the following ways:
Wordy. You use chatting, word-play, informing, calls, emails, notes, or poetry. You may find yourself talking more than usual when attracted to someone. You could become “a sweet-talker”.
Interesting. You use intellect, ideas, and wit to appear fascinating. And you appear “interested” in the object of your affections.
Interactive. You get others involved in banter, discussion, or debate. You become more “sociable” and want to really “communicate”.
Intelligent. You use reason, logic, and analysis. You don’t appear too emotional, preferring to relate on a mental level.
Venus in Gemini
If you have Venus in Gemini in your birth chart, when you go into “flirt mode” you tend to “act to attract” in some of the following ways:
Sweet-talker. You have a way with words. You’re very good at flirting and teasing, and can charm or cajole anyone with that “silver tongue”. You might also be tempted to be devious and “speak with forked tongue” (as the Native American Indians used to say). You are adept at adapting your style to suit the seduction.
Witty. When interested, you can turn into a quick-witted and clever conversationalist, and you love witty banter and the inviting innuendo. Double meanings and puns are the tricks of your trade when in “flirt mode”. You are perceptive of details and notice the response you are getting, so you can swiftly switch style to sustain interest.
Raconteur. You can relate endless stories about people or events or experiences to arouse the interest of one you desire.
Writer. You like to write notes, poems, or long letters to the object of your desire. You may even send love notes by fax, or a romantic email greeting card. Internet chat rooms may also suit your style of flirting with written communcations.
Phone-mate. You love long romantic phone calls, or Internet meeting-by-modem (and may even enjoy “phone sex”).
Reader. You love to share or give books, and to discuss books or ideas. You could shamelessly flirt in a book store or library or lecture hall.
If the planet Venus is in the sign Gemini you need to be loved for your mind above all else. You want to be valued as clever and bright and your endlessly stimulating conversation is sure to be one of your most attractive assets. In romance, if there isn’t good communication then Venus in Gemini probably won’t pursue a sexual relationship and you definitely can’t fall in love with someone who doesn’t know how to tickle your cerebellum. You enjoy variety in romance and while this does tend toward losing interest in one partner quickly, Venus in Gemini can be loyal just so long as you have a partner who understands your need for freedom and keeps you constantly stimulated.
A person with Venus in Gemini will keep you interested! They are charming, charismatic and are scintillating conversationalists. They can talk about anything! They love pleasure and fun. The downside of this is that they and aren’t likely to stay with someone who can’t keep them entertained for very long. Watch their hands – they use them a lot and are very adept!
Venus is the planet that represents what we value, what we love and what means love to us. It can be a person, place or thing.
When ensconced in the sign of Gemini the Twins, Venus can represent loving all three of those types of things and you may not feel like you in much of a relationship!
Venus in Gemini wants a relationship that is open-minded, intellectual, mentally stimulating and full of activity. There is also a tendency here to want to sample relationships, because in past lives this person has been in monogamous relationships or celibacy. Now she or he wants to break free – so this is not a life where sex comes with lots of rules (unless there are other more introverted aspects in the person’s chart)!
Venus in Gemini likes social and romantic variety. Like Venus in Aquarius, this position indicates a person wants to be friends with lovers and everyone else. Talking endlessly, traveling and doing various activities is what love is all about with the placement. This is a Venus sign that expects lots of independence in a relationship. Values concerning love, marriage and romance may seem superficial.
Venus in Gemini: believes love should mean never having to say, “I’m bored”; likes quotable, multifaceted people who have lots of diverse interests; attracts love by being infinitely entertaining; flirts by sharing thoughts & feelings and assigning pet names; wants 24/7 communication accessibility in relationships; variety, unpredictability, and verbal/written expressions of love are aphrodisiacs
Venus in Libra
If you have Venus in Libra in your birth chart, when you go into “flirt mode” you tend to “act to attract” in some of the following ways:
Romantic. You seem sweet or sensitive or tender or tantalizing or teasing. Talking about romantic movies or novels or other people’s love lives may be a way of flirting for you. Doing things that seem “romantic” indicates serious interest.
Pleasing. You act gracious, charming, cute, considerate, or tasteful. You adapt your style to attract the one you desire, and may genuinely aim to please. Acting especially “nice” is a sign of serious flirtation.
Partner-oriented. You could flirt by offering to be “partners” in some activity. You like being “a couple” and spending time “one-on-one” rather than in a group gathering, so a suggestion to slip away from a group and be alone together is a sign of serious interest.
Attentive. You love to hear the person you are interested in talk of events or feelings or ideas, and you act like you are really “paying attention” to them. Asking questions about what someone said may be a way of flirting with them. You can flirt by just listening to someone with rapt interest.
Understanding. You make someone feel only they really understand you. Or you make them feel only you really understand them. You come across as being interested in what the person has to say and understanding how they feel about things.
Intimate. You prefer to be alone with one you desire, and you seem to concentrate on that person when you are with them. You may show or say that you “really like being with” someone you desire. You may find yourself unconsciously doing little things that are “intimate” with somone you are interested in, such as touching an arm or adjusting their clothing or stroking their hair.
If Venus is in the sign Libra then your most dominating need in love is to have peace at any price. You actually tend to experience much conflict in matters of romance but show your love through an innate desire and extraordinary talent to restore harmony through quarrels. Your Venus in Libra wants to be loved for diplomacy and a sense of justice. You also have an amazing need to be in a committed partnership so casual sex is usually not your best route. An intellectual connection in romance is a must for Venus in Libra. Your ability to compromise is one of your strengths in love and you tend to attract others easily through a pronounced physical beauty.
Venus is in its heaven – it is in one of the two signs it rules (the other is Taurus) and here it wants all the hearts, flowers, lovesongs and words of love. Nothing less than the complete package is acceptable to a person with Venus in Libra.
Charming, cultured, diplomatic, romantic, talented and intellectual Venus in Libra quickly turns heads. But they get bored fast and are hard to hold. It’s worth it to try to keep them entertained.
In past lives, a person with Venus in Libra had partners who were sexually and romantically crude and emotionally callous. Now this person wants peace, pleasure, nice words, pleasant experiences, and spiritual exchange with a loved one. These are creative, warm, and generally fair people who seek the same in a partner. Libra knows how to give what it wants to get what it wants, and so people with this placement tend to have no shortage of partners. Being in a relationship is of high priority to these folks and sometimes they may do anything to be in a relationships, even with someone they know they are not interested in, just so they can appear to be in a harmonious relationship.
The Venus in Libra man knows how to say all the right things. He knows how to use language to melt your heart, make you melt into his arms and cause you to think he is Don Juan, Casanova and Valentino all rolled into one package. His mind is always working, jumping from one subject to another. He enjoys looking and smelling good, so you will usually find him wearing his best clothes and a captivating men’s cologne. He will make you feel appreciated, loved and romanced. Men with Venus in Libra can sweep you right off your feet, charming you with a winning smile, and also by opening doors, pulling out chairs and consciously displaying all the chivalrous social graces. He will place his hand in the small of your back to guide you and take you hand to help you arise from your seat. He will ask you if you are having a nice time while he engages you in charming conversation. Watch as he touches your hand ever so lightly.
The Venus in Libra woman typically has a soft voice and gentle peal of laughter are not uncommon, coming from her. She welcomes flowers, and notices the little things you do to make her feel appreciated. Her mind is always active and she is thinking of one topic even as she is speaking of another one. She will be beautifully dressed and adorned with some form of red, brown, blue or green. There may be a slight edge to her as she challenges you on some subjects, but it is always wrapped in a light and gentle teasing. The only cautionary note with both men and women who have this sign is that you should know you are being offered some illusions of romance and that the bubble may burst later! But enjoy it while you can!
Venus in Libra: believes love should = 50/50 partnership + 24/7 romance; likes attractive, intelligent, and sociable people; attracts love by being charming company, understanding and attentive; expresses love through consideration and negotiating compromises, and thinking in “us” and “we” terms; f
lirts indiscriminately for attention and popularity; wants equality, romance, and lots of attention in relationships; beauty, making plans as a couple, and the usual romantic clichés (such as rose petals on the bed and long, moonlit walks on the beach) are aphrodisiacs
Venus in Aquarius
If you have Venus in Aquarius in your birth chart, when you go into “flirt mode” you tend to “act to attract” in some of the following ways:
Original. You seem delightfully different, surprising, or inventive. Perhaps a little “quirky”. If you find yourself acting a little odd, or saying things meant to shake up or shock someone a little, you may be in flirt mode.
Unconventional. You seem open-minded or unorthodox, and you set your own style. When flirting, you may act a little “out of character” or “off the wall” or even “outrageous”. Flirting may involve demonstrating how you can “dare to be different” from others and not conform to peer pressure or social conventions; such as acting a little crazy sometimes, or wearing unusual clothing. You might act “rebellious” or get talking about “rebelling” against something with a co-conspirator you are interested in – or about “reforming” things with their help.
Individualistic. You set your own rules in how you relate to people, and respect that someone else has his or her own way of relating too. You might encourage the one you desire to “just be yourself” and show that you appreciate the ways they express their individuality.
Free-spirited. You need your own “space” and you seem willing to let someone have theirs. In fact, the more you want them, the more you may act like they are free to leave. You may find yourself flaunting the “rules” of decorum in an attempt to get attention from one you would flirt with. You may act like a “free spirit” and encourage someone who interests you to “just do your own thing”; or show you appreciate what they are already doing that is out of the ordinary.
Visionary. You seem like a “visionary” who sees future trends, and may invite someone you desire to join you in working at changing the world somehow. Talking about your vision may be a way of flirting with the object of your affections.
Coolly detached. You may appear aloof or unemotional, or perhaps intellectual. It seems an odd way to “flirt”, but it can be attractive to those who are curious, or who are not comfortable with overly-emotional people, or who want you to show your feelings more. Someone always wants to melt the “Ice Princess” or get “Cool Hand Luke” to show his feelings; so your “detached” air could be intriguing to someone you are interested in. If your basic nature is NOT to be cool and detached, but passionate (Sun in Aries or Sagittarius) or emotional (Sun in Pisces)… you may paradoxically act less warm and more cool when in the presence of a person whose affections you would entice.
If Venus is in the sign Aquarius, your love needs revolve around experimentation and thinking outside the box when it comes to sex and romance. Venus in Aquarius will attract others through a progressive, open and radical mind that isn’t going to obey traditional rules of love. This is the “rebel” in love. You value friendship and a strong mental connection in romance and may appear less comfortable than other signs when it comes to expressing heavy emotion. Venus in Aquarius must have independence and freedom in love so a traditional relationship usually won’t work for this sign. If a lover values you for your eccentricity and unpredictability then you may have found true love.
Independence, lots of space, freedom, individuality and separateness. These are what the person with Venus in Aquarius seeks in a relationship. Situations that allow for these characteristics are the ones they value most.
Venus in Aquarius indicates that in a prior lifetime the person experienced some sort of sexual abuse or misuse, most likely forcibly locked into sexual unions against their free will. This was very traumatic. Now in this lifetime, there may still be some trauma around sexual issues (for example the person may experience rape or molestation at an early age). They may have trouble forming pleasurable sexual relationships as an adult.
Aquarius is a sign that seeks freedom, independence and is very progressive in its approach to life. For Venus in Aquarius people there is a need to seek attention for being unique – being The Rebel. Aquarius likes to shake up the mix! They like to be known for speaking existential “truths”. They can also be rather voyeuristic about other’s sexual and romantic lives, wanting to openly discuss the details of the other person’s life because it is a “radical” approach to such an intimate issue (and because talking about sex and relationships covertly excites them by stimulating their mind)….but detaching and hiding when it comes to revealing their own private sexual and romantic details!
A relationship with a person who has Venus in Aquarius may not feel like much of a relationship at all. These people also typically do not form close personal romantic bonds until late in life, if at all.
Venus in Aquarius: believes love should be dessert with friendship as the main entrée; likes free-spirited, eccentric people who aren’t afraid to go against the status quo; attracts love by being friendly to everyone; flirts by sharing unusual ideas and opinions; wants a best friend, intellectually stimulating company and emotional detachment in relationships; discussing new, inventive ways to have sex is an aphrodisiac
Watersigns: Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces
Your Venus Sign is the Sign where the planet Venus is located in your birth chart. If your Sun Sign or Rising Sign is Cancer or Scorpio or Pisces, you may also have the following style to some extent; but whatever your Sun Sign may be, when you have Venus in one of these Water Signs, your way of flirting is even more likely to be as described below. If your Sun or Moon is in a Fire or Air Sign, it may “turn up the heat” somewhat; but the more introverted and subtle Water Sign style will still show in some way.
If you have Venus in Cancer or Scorpio or Pisces in your birth chart, when you go into “flirt mode” you tend to “act to attract” in one or more of the following ways:
Emotional. You seem to feel things deeply, and feel emotionally vulnerable. You tend to over-use imagination, and may think that what you feel is real even when logic would say it isn’t.
Sensitive. You seem sweet and vulnerable (though Scorpio hides it well). You tend to make others feel they need to “protect” you from hurt feelings; and may act in ways to encourage this.
Responsive. You seem to sense others’ moods and react to their emotions. You seem very “empathic” or “sympathetic” to others’ feelings.
Fluid. You seem to seep into one’s heart through weak spots in their emotional armour. You are very subtle and indirect in the way you attract love and affection.
Venus in Cancer
If you have Venus in Cancer in your birth chart, when you go into “flirt mode” you tend to “act to attract” in some of the following ways:
Caring. You seem to want to know and understand the feelings or fears of the one you would flirt with. (If you are male, you come across as “a sensitive guy”.) You offer emotional support or a shoulder to cry on, and might become the confidante or confessor for the one you desire. The Cancer style is subtle, and to flirt does not mean overt.
Nurturing. You care for one’s comfort and cater to one’s emotional needs. Call it the “care bear” strategy. Cuddling and coddling is part of the care bear mating ritual. Feeding is a form of nurturing, and offering food is a form of flirtation for Venus in Cancer. An invitation to a home-cooked dinner may set the scene for seduction. Even the suggestion to split a pizza may mean more than a passing interest.
Mothering. Fussing over the object of your affections is an indication of interest. You may act like a mother (or father) to the one you would entice – not necessarily a “romantic” role, but one that can successfully seduce that certain someone. You pamper the one you desire and cater to their comfort (and might unconsciously call them “baby” more often than you or they are noticing).
Protective. You make one feel safe from harm or emotional hurts. The more of your affection they attract, the more protective you will act.
Secure. You seem to offer a safe haven, a secure future, or a home base (and you might even mention that you are a home-owner or talk about your house). You seem like someone who could make one feel “at home”, secure in the knowledge that they “belong” somewhere and are cared for. An invitation into your home is an invitation to romance.
Rooted. You value “family” and family traditions, and you value the past. Interest in someone’s family means interest in them, so flirting may involve family pictures, family facts, or family history. You might offer help in finding one’s roots or lost relatives. An invitation to meet YOUR family is not a flirtation, but a courtship.
If the planet Venus is in the sign Cancer then your most dominant need in love is emotional security. You are tender and sensitive in matters of romance and sex. You need to be nurtured and most easily express love for another by nurturing beyond a lover’s wild expectations. This could lead to co- dependent relationships where you end up getting hurt, especially if you confuse love with smothering which you sometimes do. Venus in Cancer is timid when dealing with romantic pursuits. You much prefer to prove to a potential lover how you can feed their heart and soul rather than be bold and direct in sexual matters. Feelings must be genuine and if hurt in love having Venus in Cancer is likely to shield you from opening your heart for quite some time.
Cancer is the most domestic sign of love. This is the Venus placement that enjoys making a home, decorating with art and fine furniture, playing beautiful music within its walls and creating or serving warm delicious family meals.
Venus in Cancer wants security. With this placement, a person gives their all to a partner, expecting love, affection and high quality love. Devotion is an unspoken requirement and is given in return. Venus in Cancer is highly emotional, very sensitive and cries a lot – although that is usually in secret.
If you have Venus in Cancer, you have deep desire to be so entwined that you can intuit each other’s needs and desires, and don’t even have to speak. That is because you carry the natural intuitive ability to do so! Affectionate and demonstrative, you enjoy being physically close – cuddling, holding hands and caressing with your partner. You also enjoy cooking for your partner and being maternal towards him/her. Children are an important facet of your life, as is taking care of your home. You view your family as your first priority and outside work is second place. Men with Mars or Venus in Cancer tend to look for a woman who is like their mother and who is devoted to him, home and family.
Venus in Cancer: believes love should be nurturing; likes people who need mothering (or who are mothering) and are appreciative of her efforts; attracts love by making people feel cozy and sheltered; expresses love by feeding and/or cooking for someone, remembering preferences, giving thoughtful tokens of affection; wants interdependence in relationships; emotional bonding and cuddling are aphrodisiacs
Venus in Scorpio
If you have Venus in Scorpio in your birth chart, when you go into “flirt mode” you tend to “act to attract” in some of the following ways:
Intense. You seem intently focused on the object of your desire. You appear primal, sultry, brooding, or “dark” – and perhaps a little “dangerous”. (I don’t know if you could say Venus in Scorpio “flirts” at all; for it often seems a subtle “seduction” is taking place that makes the first step of flirting seem superfluous.)
Smouldering. You seem to have passions ready to flame or to erupt – like a glowing ember which when fanned can flare into a fire of desire.
Sexual. You seem to act more “sexy” when in flirt mode, and may exude an enticing “animal magnetism” that subtly seduces the one you desire.
Mesmerizing. A look in your eyes can mesmerize. The object of your attention is drawn in by the mystery behind the eyes. One could lose oneself in their depths. You might be told you possess “bedroom eyes”.
Probing. You seem to stare into one’s soul, to sense one’s secrets. You tend to make the object of your attentions feel vulnerable somehow. You may ask probing questions about things other people would not venture to inquire about. Being the instigator of a Scorpio inquisition indicates some serious interest in the guy or gal being grilled.
Powerful. You seem strong – a sorceror, a saviour …or a slave master. A subtle sense of hidden power could attract a certain someone like a flame attracts certain flying insects.
If Venus is in the sign Scorpio then you have an intense need to love with more physical and emotional depth and commitment than perhaps any other sign. Love is not taken lightly and once love has infiltrated your soul it’s there for good. Venus in Scorpio needs to be in control of this decision to fall in love however so it’s likely you’ll end up being initially guarded and slow to reveal yourself to a prospective lover as you size up the genuine potential of long term romance. Sex is the ultimate expression of love to Venus in Scorpio; however you’re not interested in casual sex per se. You want intimacy. You want to know the good, bad and ugly when you’re in love with someone and experience the ultimate pleasures and pain together.
Mysterious, exciting, sexual Scorpio loves intensely. People born under this sign are loyal and protective. They can also be jealous and secretive. The Scorpion is most compatible with someone he or she feels can be trusted completely. They are not too fond of parties and like you to stay at home. Women involved with a Scorpio male may find themselves without much of a social life after a few years with their Scorpio mate. But that will suit him just fine!
Scorpios must be aware of their shadow side. While they have the gift of being able to achieve deep psychological transformation, it is not unusual for a Scorpio to come to that point through some DEEPLY serious drug and/or alcohol use/abuse or sexual experimentation. They may do these things to an extent that would probably kill or seriously maim the average person. Scorpios must ask themselves if they are being suspicious of others because they fear what is in the deepest, most hidden parts of their own soul. Scorpio is ruled by the planet Pluto. Pluto reigns over death, sexuality, rebirth, and transformation.
The Scorpio archetypes are The Snake, The Sorcerer, The Grey Lizard, The Phoenix, and The Eagle. Many are The Phoenix and fly into the Sun or close to it, crash, burn and amazingly enough come out the other side, sane, sober, substance-free and wise. Some go on to be great teachers of society and are viewed as very wise and noble.
A person with Venus in Scorpio is yearning to form relationships which embody deep, radical honesty and a “knowing” of the partner that is beyond judgment and words. Venus in Scorpio symbolizes a need to have a transforming and cathartic relationship where no matter what is said, no matter what is revealed, the other partner will not leave. The relationship must be safe enough to solidly embrace both partners no matter how dark and terrifying the journey down the rabbit hole becomes. In this atmosphere the person with Venus in Scorpio can overcome the inherent sense of distrust she/he has deep in their soul from a previous lifetime. With this type of relationship, the Venus in Scorpio person can be their authentic selves and emerge spiritually.
Venus in Scorpio: believes love should be passionate, intense, and life-altering; likes to associate with powerful people whose sexuality comes in contradictory layers (e.g., dresses provocatively but is a virgin, looks understated but moves like a stripper in private); expresses love by keeping a mate’s secrets, developing an emotional bond, and not wanting to share the partner’s affection; flirts through seduction; wants to have control and trust in a relationship; a strong sex drive, instant chemistry, intensity, and loyalty are aphrodisiacs
Venus in Pisces
If you have Venus in Pisces in your birth chart, when you go into “flirt mode” you tend to “act to attract” in some of the following ways:
Mysterious. You seem intriguing, elusive, even enigmatic. Your air of mystery might invite an attractive someone to be seduced into a secret affair.
Sweet and Demure. You seem sensitive and vulnerable, or coy, or shy. Your sweetness is seductive and your demure demeanor is disarming. If you are female, an alluring femininity may flower and passively but powerfully attract the object of your affection.
Surreal. You offer intriguing illusions or an escape from reality, possibly in a romantic fantasy world that invites the one you desire to depart the drudgery of daily life. Perfumes or colognes, glamorous clothes, or creative cosmetics might add to your alluring air.
Soulful. You seem able to share deep feelings, or a higher consciousness. You seem a safe harbour for one’s soul. You seem like someone who could connect on a soul level. You might show a “soulful” look in your eyes as you glance at the one you would flirt with.
Self-sacrificing. You offer to serve some needs of the one you desire, putting them first and yourself last, even something as simple as offering your seat on the bus, or giving of your time to help someone with something. You may tend to lose your self-identity when you identify yourself too strongly with the object of your affections. (Beware that your willingness to make sacrifices might set you up as an unwitting victim. It is sweet to sacrifice your self-interest, but self-destructive to sacrifice your self-respect.)
Spiritual. You may seem like a spiritual guide to someone; or you may see your salvation in the one you desire.
If Venus is in the sign Pisces then you need to transcend the boundaries of physical love and completely surrender your body and soul to romance. You attract others easily with your compassionate and forgiving ways however this sensitivity does make you vulnerable to being easily taken advantage of. Venus in Pisces can confuse sex with love and expect impossible ideals from romance. It’s so easy for you to lose your breath and get carried away with a dreamy enchanted world you’ve created. You may fall in love with someone who another sign would quickly discard. Venus in Pisces is capable of seeing the potential for love in anyone. If someone understands your imaginative, dreamy tendencies and can respect your need to escape reality without using you, then you’ve found true romance!
Love and romance for someone with Venus in Pisces is an oceanic flood of emotions. Dreams and fantasies are Piscean territory. People with Venus in this sign wash back and forth between their fantasies and the reality of human relationships. They want a knight in shining armor on a white horse or a princess walking barefoot through the grass. They are willing to sacrifice themselves and dissolve all boundaries between themselves and the one they love. Love can be all-consuming.
Venus in Pisces people are moody, sensitive, tender-hearted, charming, playful and creative. Flirting is a major strength. Bring out the poetry and love songs and they will feel at home. The man with Venus in Pisces can be like John Travolta, going out of his way to shower his wife or girlfriend with romantic settings, flowers and gifts.
They also love unconditionally and that can be a good or bad thing. They may unconditionally accept someone with a Neptunian problem – alcoholism, drug addiction, gambling, pathological prevarication or sexual obsession.
At the same time, because of their sensitive nature, these folks may have a hard time committing because they are emotionally so sensitive. This sensitivity may also mean that they themselves have some of the Neptunian habits that they may be accept in those they love.
Venus in Pisces: believes love should be a perfect blend of an intuitive, spiritual bond and romance; likes nonjudgmental, creative people who think and communicate in imaginative ways; attracts love by being infinitely compassionate and seeing the best in people; flirts by developing and acknowledging a special connection; wants empathy, kindness, and sensitivity in relationships; dreamy kisses that cause tingles, foot massages, bubble baths, and mind-altering substances or practices are aphrodisiacs